Once You Plan To Hit On Her, Follow These Steps To Reel Her In Fast
How many times a month do you frequent the same hair stylist, grocery store, drug store, coffee shop, tanning salon, gym, doctor's office, restaurant or other service and see that sweet hottie that is always so nice to you? You see her and she always treats you like a king with a big smile and you get the vibe that maybe -- just maybe -- you could make a move.
The only problem is that you don't want to misconstrued "niceness" for "horniness". How do you find out if she is single without blowing your whole wad at once? The best way is to ask questions.
The number one question you don't ask is, "ARE YOU SINGLE?"
The reason you do not ask this question is because it makes you look like a collegiate amateur. Why not just walk up and say, "I have a boner - do you want it?"
This question may break you for another reason. What if she is "not" single but really just wants to sleep with you? If you ask that question you alienate her because she would have to admit that fact to you and that might be an uncomfortable conversation. When a girl asks me if I am single I always say, "For the sake of this conversation I am."
Don't elimidate your prey with something so direct.
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So here is the approach: If you are a regular at any of the above mentioned venues such as a gym or salon the first thing you need to do is check the temperature of the water. Remember, this might take a few visits to pull off so don't be impatient. You have to do this right so that if you two never "connect" then at least she won't cringe when you show up in the future.
Just try to stay focused on always being "yourself" the same "self" that she likes smiling at - don't change your personality unless it is to merely "smile more". This is important because it may be your "simple" charms that get her attentions and keep them.
The way you go about it is - once you plan to "hit on" her, do it slowly in stages.
The first time you open the gate a little will be with questions about her JOB. The reason you ask about here job is because many of the professions mentioned can have high turnover. If she is quitting her job or leaving soon she might become an even better target and you can speed up your time table.
If she is quitting or leaving that location it does not matter if you strike out because she won't be there to rub it in - a new girl will. So now if she is not leaving the job it is an opportunity for you to learn a little about her - THE MORE INFORMATION YOU KNOW ABOUT A WOMAN THE MORE SHE THINKS YOU ARE LISTENING - THIS IS A GOOD THING.
On the next visit - try to see her AFTER the weekend so that you can ask her, "how was your weekend?"
This will be the first opportunity for her to tell you whether she has a boyfriend or not. If she is close with her boyfriend, then more than likely they spent the weekend together and she will tell you about it. It also may turn into a bitchfest of complaints regarding "what her boyfriend doesn't do". Make sure you don't become a "sounding board" for her problems or she will see you as the sympathetic ear and not the hard cock.
If you don't get anything from that conversation regarding her "single status" then on the next visit (OR IF YOU RUN INTO HER IN PUBLIC) ask her, "What's new?" If she doesn't say anything interesting - compliment her in a roundabout way by saying, "Someone as beautiful (or fun or cool etc.) as you should have dates lined up." If her response sounds like she needs a date then maybe; just maybe now is the time to ask her.
If her response is murky and includes suggestions she is not in a "satisfying" relationship then you might have to go one more round with flirting and priming. That next round might include a question like, "Have things gotten better"? For which you will respond, "Because I would love an attempt at making you smile." Suggestions are always better than uncomfortable direct questions.
At this point you should have a very good idea what she does, who she is seeing, for how long and if she is happy. If you can't feel a vibe "one way or the other" at this point then she is either playing with your head, she's an emotional wreck, or you're an idiot. If you do it right and she doesn't bite than I would bet on number two of those three.
You never have to ask "Are you single?" because many women (especially those attracted to you) will let you know in their actions and the stories they tell. If you go to one of these places mentioned and a girl YOU are attracted to asks YOU if you're single then forget everything I said, look at her, say YES.