First Date Etiquette

Good Manners On The First Date

Let's assume for a second that all of you DON'T have a mother. That way when you act unscrupulously with your manners in front of ANY FEMALE we would have something legitimate to blame it on. Assuming you DO have a mother then you will be addressed with the same standards of male etiquette and courtesies that one's mother would come to expect from her son.

All the females in your life, you mother, your sister, your girlfriend your secretary, your boss should all be receiving the same standards of male etiquette. This applies to manners on a date as well as with female friends and family.

Make Her Laugh And Make Her Feel Safe

The reason I would possibly bring up your mother on Seduction Insider is even your mother would approve of us teaching you what most likely fell on deaf ears in your home growing up under her wing. If you read any of my columns here then you would know I teach two things about seducing a female; make her laugh and "make her feel safe".

Making a female feel safe comes in many different forms and your behavior and etiquette will suggest a lot about your character and if she will "feel safe" with you. So the basic fundamentals that will apply here are: If it is good enough for mom then it is good enough for all females. The basics are always the best place to start with etiquette and manners.

So PLEASE pay attention to the next sentence, THANK YOU. Did you catch that? I asked you to do something by saying please first and whether you do it or not I followed that with thank you. Your manners on a date will require this more than you imagine. If you are on a first date and you are not using the basic please and thank you courtesies to the server then she knows what NOT to expect from your relationship - courtesy.

Please & thank you is the most basic of courtesies and the most obvious when they are missing so don't miss it even once in the presence of a female regarding a request or fulfillment.

The next item on mom's checklist is "walk the walk". Be a man! Do you know where you are supposed to walk on the street with your date or any other female?

Walk On The Outside - The Sreetside!

Yes, if you are walking down the street with ANY female YOU are supposed to walk on the outside of the street. This is such an important etiquette among females and they will notice it for sure.

Good girls are old fashioned and they notice instantly when a boy is being well mannered/old fashioned with his manners on a date. When you walk her to the car stand in front of her a bit so she knows YOU are going to open the door. If she begins to reach for the handle - either grasp the handle first or simply reach gently for her hand and say, "I will get that".

When you drive up to a location with your "date" or your mother (no one else applies) look to see if she is hesitating before she exits the vehicle - she might be suggesting you walk around the other side to get her door. If any woman in your car is 60 or over you will get the door for her regardless of whether she is your mother or your date.

Walk on the outside, open the car (any) doors, please & thank you; these are the starters or appetizers to your manners on date.

If you are not with your mother and you are on a date then the next thing you should watch for is YOUR MOUTH. On the date make sure you NEVER chew with your mouth OPEN, rinse after chewing with water if you're eating salad to dislodge any green leaves that might be stuck in there.

Never talk with your mouth FULL. Cover your mouth when you cough & turn your head from the table. If you get a bone or piece of fat that you can not chew - simply take it out and place it on a bev-nap or the corner of the plate - that is the ONLY time you will put your fingers in your mouth the entire time you are at the table.

This means no teeth picking even with a toothpick. After you are done eating simply excuse yourself to the men's room - there you will check your nose and teeth for foreign objects that need to be removed.

Keeping your "space" is also an essential mannerism to making her feel safe. This means only touch her when necessary until you are certain she wants you to touch her. Don't wear too much cologne or after shave (yuk) because your smell can invade her space as well.

Always make eye contact on the date and don't interrupt her when she is speaking. These are the most basic of manners on a date and normal everyday etiquette that you should exude with men and women alike.

How you "act" with your manners and courtesies will make her feel safe because showing these actions means you care about others and how you affect them. She will know that you have her best interests in mind while you are together.

These behaviors also suggest maturity - a trait that all women look for in a man - even the funny ones. The next time you walk down the street with a female or share a meal with your date - treat her as if everyone is watching you - especially your mother.

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Training Your Girlfriend

When you first start dating a new girlfriend, you want to be on your best behavior. Sure, you want to make a good impression, but what you're really doing is catering to her to get sex.

The problem is, the power base shifts to her right from the outset and she knows it. She's in charge of access to the zipper and she counts on you bending over backward to gain entry. So she's got you.

But there's more to it than that.

You might not be aware of it, but what she's really up to is training you to be what she calls a "gentleman" -- acting nice and accommodating, paying for her meals and chauffeuring her around like a servant. And that's not all. She's also busy laying her traps to lock you into this pattern for the course of the relationship.

Before you know it, she'll have you on her leash, following her around like a puppy dog, eagerly awaiting her next command, and lapping up the few sexual kibbles she tosses at you to keep you at "heel."

Sounds despicable, doesn't it? Yet girlfriends do it to men all the time. Why? Because we let them. We allow them to treat us like obedient pets, with sex as our reward for the "correct" behavior.

But what if you don't want to wind up as your girlfriend's puppy dog? Is there any way out of this canine catastrophe? The answer is "yes."

The trick is to beat her to the punch -- act fast and treat her like one first. A girlfriend can make a best friend and ideal companion, but like any bitch (female dog, that is), she needs to be taught how to act around the house. So you have to set the ground rules early by enrolling her in your own private obedience school.

Common Obedience Problems

Aggression

She's out of control and constantly acts up. Brainwashed by a steady diet of Oprah and "feminist" propaganda, she's now "empowered," meaning that her thoughts run somewhere along these lines: "Men have been holding me back, I want mine now, and I don't care what pair of testicles I have to step on to get it." Since a girlfriend's brain is unable to distinguish emotion from logic, this kind of fantasy thinking will prompt her to act in self-destructive patterns and will cause you undue stress around the house.

Whining

She doesn't like to be left alone. She pouts when you hook up for the weekly poker game with your buddies. She harps at you to buy her something, and when she gets it, she doesn't want it anymore (or demands something even more expensive). She nags that you watch too much ESPN. She's always whimpering that she's too fat, too old or not pretty enough. She craves constant attention.

Barking

Yap, yap, yap. She talks incessantly. But the problem is that she goes on and on and on about nothing. You're on the phone, trying to close a business deal, and there she is in the background, yipping about her new pair of shoes.

Disobedience

Like a dog, she is hard to train. No matter what you want, she always insists on getting her own way, then throws a tantrum or cuts off sex if you oppose her. She's always escaping from the yard to go shopping. And she won't respect your commands ("roll over," "lie down," "play dead").

Begging

She always "begs" with her hands on her hips -- never on all fours. All you hear from her is, "I want this," "Give me that" (on your credit card, of course) and "My girlfriend's boyfriend bought her a car -- why are you so cheap?" Not to mention that she expects to be regularly taken out for expensive dinners.

House destruction

You just can't leave her alone in your place. You go out for a few hours to play golf, and when you come back, your autographed Bears poster and leather couch have been replaced by flower prints and a shrimp-colored loveseat. And there are friggin' valances on the windows.

Not fetching

An improperly trained girlfriend doesn't know that she should always bring you a beer without having to be asked.

Chasing

Girlfriends are naturally attracted to bright, shiny objects (like jewelry) and fast-moving luxury cars. An untrained girlfriend will abandon you and run after any male who happens by with a few baubles and a Porsche.

Not being housetrained

Girlfriends are notorious for not knowing how to put the toilet seat back up.

Training Your Girlfriend

You can see how much upset an untrained girlfriend can bring into your life. So how can you counteract these bad behaviors?

Act early and often

Girlfriends have to be taught obedience from day one, or they will soon think that their bad behavior will be tolerated. Once improper patterns have been imprinted on the female brain, they can be extremely difficult to alter - you can't teach an old girlfriend new tricks. The idea is to set the ground rules at the beginning of the relationship so that she can understand what's expected of her. This means your regular night out with the guys, sharing dating expenses and sex on your terms.

Don't be afraid to say "no"

As many would believe, girlfriends aren't usually as bright as men, so they typically have to be told more than once. And spank her if she continues to misbehave. If she likes it, spank her a lot.

Use operant conditioning

Freely encourage her good behaviors (being in heat, excessive licking, humping, and especially obeying the command, "Down, girl!") with praise and rewards while ignoring the bad. The idea is not to punish her for doing something wrong (unless she's into that sort of thing), but to withhold attention from the behaviors you don't like. This way, she will slowly catch on and eliminate the unwanted patterns from her repertoire. As she starts to become dependent upon your approval or disapproval, she will act more agreeably and respectfully toward you.

Practice Makes Perfect

All in all, obedience training is one of the best things you can do for your girlfriend and yourself, because a well-trained girlfriend makes for a happy relationship. It can enrich your dating life by eliminating unwanted behaviors and can make your time together much more enjoyable. The ultimate result is that you'll wind up with a girlfriend who will treat you well and work hard to please you... the perfect pet to have around the house.

By Matthew Fitzgerald

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