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Saturday, November 18, 2006

What Women Want - Your Approval

When Women Look to You for Approval, They Look to You for Sex

Don't Give Her Approval With Compliments

Compliments are very powerful tools if used wisely, but used wrongly and very quickly your game plan falls apart because the woman you're trying so hard to "get in good with" has suddenly started to dread you.

Yep, that's right, she's started to dread you. There is nothing worse than going over the top and giving a woman too many obvious compliments. This is especially true the more intelligent, successful, and beautiful a woman gets. As one very attractive, intelligent female friend of mine put it the over-the-top, obvious compliment, "is like nails on a chalkboard."

Ug. Not what you were going for, right? Okay, so let's step back a moment; and stop you before you go wrong again in the future. Cause we've all done it, we've all been so overwhelmed by a woman's hotness that the most obvious, stupidly juvenile, worst-pick-up-line-you-can-imagine sort of compliments came spewing out of us as if we had no brain at all and were one large blob of testosterone.

Are we full of testosterone? Yes, but use that excuse and you'll keep ending up alone on your couch. If you want to get anywhere with women you have to use the larger of your two heads.

It's confusing, I know, because we hear so often that even very beautiful women have poor self-esteem. And it's true; I've seen it with my own eyes. Gorgeous women constantly picking themselves apart, feeling they never quite live up to the standard of perfection in their head - or more truthfully - in the media.

But you, my good man, are not the media, or not likely (and no, writing for some type of gaming magazine doesn't cut it). So unless you happen to be Brad Pitt's double, or are actually that very rare beast of a straight fashion photographer (I said fashion, not a wanna be "glamour" photographer who's conned a few women into posing almost nude for his myspace page) than in a woman's mind you're not an expert - not yet.

How you get to be an expert in her mind is to compliment her on the things she's secretly proud of but doesn't get complimented on enough. You win your way in by paying attention.

Let's face it, most compliments we give to women are about us, and our desire, not about the woman we're complimenting. We notice her legs, ass, breasts, hair, eyes etc. thrill us and we just have to pipe up and share. Trust me, she's not fooled for a minute. The hotter the woman the more she's used to men throwing their desire at her.

But if you take the time to actually notice her, and observe her life, she'll very quickly tell you what's going on with her, what she's proud of, what's overwhelming her Etc. Etc. Remember, women love to talk and share their feelings as a way of emotionally bonding with someone. If you can keep your lust from spilling out of your mouth for long enough she'll tell you exactly where she'd like to be noticed that no one else straight and male is.

And that's where you lob the compliment. Of course you're not going to be obvious about it, you're not going to rush in while she's complaining and say, "but you're a fabulous ____ (insert her occupation here). No, you're going to be suave and subtle. And above all you're going to give the compliment with no strings attached.

The absolutely worst way to give a woman a compliment is to expect something back from it. A compliment with an emotional (please love me back), or sexual (please sleep with me), attachment isn't a compliment, it's verbal desperation, and desperation of any kind does nothing but repel sane women.

So if you can't give a compliment without adding your yearning to it, don't give it. Wait until you've pulled yourself together and can give the compliment with no expectations.

Then watch, listen and learn what a woman really wants to be complimented before you casually toss one at her. A well observed but rare compliment is far more powerful than an obvious one - in her mind it means you've really seen her, not just her image. Hone these skills and women will be looking forward to what you've got to say about them, not dreading it.

When women look to you for approval, they're only two drinks away from looking to you for sex.

Because that's what they really want.

Thursday, November 16, 2006

Seducing girls - a complete guide

Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:

  • Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
  • Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5% vinegar instead of soap.
  • Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)

Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).

When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...

Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).

When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try obviously to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.

When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.

The end.

Appendix A - Vibe/BL

Attractive body language (BL) habits:

  • Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
  • Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
  • Spread out (occupying much space)
  • Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
  • Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)

The 3 main seductive vibes:

Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.

Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.

Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.

Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)

Note on learning all this:

Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.

Appendix B - Appreciate

Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).

When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.

Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.

Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.

A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.

Appendix C - lines you can use or draw inspiration from


  • "Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
  • "Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
  • "Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
  • "Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
  • "Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
  • Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
  • "My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
  • "Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
  • "Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"


  • "Bad girl!"
  • "Naughty girl!"
  • "You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
  • "There is something mystical about you!"
  • "You look like you are hiding something!"
  • "I can't trust you!"
  • "Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"

Dodge questions:

  • "Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
  • "I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
  • "I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
  • "You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"


  • "I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
  • "Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
  • "Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
  • "I'm hard - are you wet?"
  • "My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
  • "Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
  • "My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
  • "I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
  • "WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
  • "I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During close)
  • "I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
  • "My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
  • "I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
  • "I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
  • "I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
  • "I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
  • "Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
  • "My penis is extremely small!"
  • "I'm a virgin!"
  • "Girls are so scary!"
  • "Im shy."
  • "This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
  • "I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
  • "As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
  • Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
  • "Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)

Appendix D - Some sex advice

  • Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
  • Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
  • When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
  • When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
  • When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
  • When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.

Source: Seducing girls

Monday, November 13, 2006

10 Things to Talk About on a First Date

What if You Always Knew Exactly What to Say on a Date?

Keys to First Date Conversation

For most men finding something to SAY at all to a female is one of the toughest "tasks" they face as a collective. The downside to hitting on a female is "striking out".

The upside to hitting on a female is that you only have to talk for a minute or so. Your personality and creativity and charm are all jam packed into a quick jolt of infatuated excitement. When you finally take the plunge and take that same female out on a first date you have to make all of the charm and excitement last.

Don't forget YOU asked HER out so the ball is really in your court to keep her entertained and prove to her you're not a one-minute-one-hit-wonder.

"How much money do you make"? That is one of the many things you DON'T talk about on a date. Your income, penis size or ex-girlfriends is absolutely off the list of things to talk about on a date. You should know better by now anyway because you are a man not a boy. If you are a you're a young guy reading this then you wanting to be a man is what brought you (like many others) to Seduction Insider to begin with: To share the wisdom of love, sex, and dating… yes even dating.

First dates have many do's and don'ts - but nothing comes without trying.

Here are some tips for the "first round":

1. Questions, Questions, Questions!

In sales, one of the lessons they teach you is to follow everything you says with a "question". Even if she asks you a question, you answer and follow it with a question. The more she talks the more questions you will ask.

2. Viva La Familia

Nothing is closer to the heart than family. Is she from a big family? Does she want a family? Was she abandoned by her family? This is revealing stuff for future reference. Do you want kids? Do you want marriage? She needs to know things too you know.

3. Now That's Funny!

Are you comedic, sardonic, sarcastic or otherwise the class clown? If so you are in like Flynn because the only time a woman does not want to talk is when she is laughing. If you two are laughing all night she will leave knowing this much: She had a great time.

4. Testing Testing

Some guys like smart chicks. The best way to find out is talk about something ultra intelligent and see how many questions she asks or how much she knows on the subject. Start with science and work down the ladder to art. Ask questions that test common knowledge not academics (later).

5. Me, Myself & I

Talk about yourself. Talk about what you like and dislike and maybe you will find out sooner than later that you two are a match or maybe you are not. Some girls would rather listen than talk and some guys would rather talk than listen - perfect.

6. Good Taste

The food you are eating or the clothes she is wearing are great subject matter. Do you have something to offer in the way of fashion or cuisine? Show off because girls like those subjects and are impressed by comprehension of them.

7. Testing II

People with a formal education love to talk about where they went to school and what they studied because it took up a big chunk of their life and some stay very close to their alma matter by attending games and school functions such as fund raisers. This is boring stuff to me but whatever.

8. Extra! Extra! Read all about it!

Current events such as the war in Iraq are hot topics for anyone with the slightest political vane. Talk about what is going on locally or nationally that affects you personally then that will show you if there is any stimulus being invested from her.

9. All work and no play…

The workplace or our careers consume a great deal of time for each of us so it is not a stretch to talk about what we do for a living and how we are affected by it. Stay away from badmouthing employees or bosses because that sounds bitter and you don't that.

10. Sex, Sex and more Sex

Okay you knew it was coming, did you think I was giving that one up so easily? Sex is what every guy wants to talk about that is why we want you to read the other 9 first. Stay away from this subject unless you got nothing left or she goes there first. If not you look like every other guy who wants to have sex with her. Be original.

Being original or creative or funny or narcissistic are all ways to start a conversation on the first date but remember it is a "conversation" and so your efforts MUST include her. The first tip on questions is the most important (yes even over humor or sex) because you can't understand how she works if you don't know anything about her.

No matter how it is going, you should always try to answer every question or finish every story with a QUESTION about her or her past or her future. Keep this rule of thumb handy, "If it is important to her, it is important me".

Woman LOVE to talk about themselves. Women LOVE to talk about themselves.

See now I have told you that 3 times - so the key to talking to girls on a date is: Let her do ALL the talking.

Note to Self:

Yes, yes, yes you want her to do most of the talking - this often reveals her interest level. However, make sure that you do not seem like a dead doorknob. When you do speak, speak with energy, and tempered enthusiasm... Meaning, don't exlode with enthusiasm, but do put life and character into what you have to say... and then remember to shut up, and don't go on and on about a subject. If asked a question, give some information, and then smoothly point the conversation back in her direction and get her talking again.

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Thursday, November 09, 2006

Watch Seduction School Episode (Video)

Check out these great movies from Seduction School hosted by England's Channel 4. Really great watching, it certainly gets me pumped up for going into the field and overcoming anxiety. It is at times, painful to watch, but great to watch these guys progress. What it's all about. Empowering us.

Be nice on the comments guys, these blokes are coming from the ground zero! :)

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10 Lessons to Close the Deal with Women

Fuck an intro! Let's get right down to it. Because the more time you spend reading this shit, the less fucking you'll be doing. Read it. Learn it. Understand it. In grain it. Re-read it if you fuck up. Apply these rules, lessons, principles immediately in your life, and watch the used condom wrappers pile up.

The first ten lessons apply in situations where you have yet to kiss the girl.

1. Trust your gut. Unless you are a completely delusional person, I'd say onaverage your gut feeling is right more that 80% of the time. That leaves 20% for error. I'd say that is a chance worth taking. You know when talking to a girl if you are getting a vibe or not. If you feel a vibe, chances are she does too. Act on it quickly. Do not give yourself time to second guess. Because second guessing comes from thought. And remember, thought is the cheapest commodity on earth. Intuition is priceless. Go with it. With that being said, if you don't feel it, flee. Don't waste another second with a dead end lead.

2. Take action quickly. The biggest mistake you can make is letting a good one slip by because you hesitated or wanted more proof that your gut feeling was right. If you start looking for proof you'll start finding the opposite. The minute you feel your gut saying its time. IT IS TIME. Not tomorrow, not next week, not after you get a hair cut, or a new job, or after you have time to plan out some advanced strategy. Those are all excuses to delay. A way to procrastinate. That is your fear of failure. That is your way of justifying the fact that you haven't got the balls to act on a good lead. If you want pussy you better be ready to act on a minutes notice. No later. The sad truth is there are a hundred guys lined up behind you to fuck this one girl. Delay for a second, and you'll be home again masturbating, while the guy who took action has his dick between her legs.

3. Lead the conversation in the direction you want it to go in. You are probably saying, 'okay I feel it, now what?' If you don't think it is the appropriate place or moment to kiss her, lead her to that place. If you are in a crowded place tell her to come with you some where more intimate. Tell her. Don't ask. Lead her to a better spot. If your gut was right, she will be more then willing to follow. Now make sure the conversation stays where you want it. If you let her start rambling on she may wind up talking about something that kills the mood. Her dead aunt. Her last relationship. Her current boyfriend. Remember: THE MORE TIME THE TWO OF YOU SPEND TALKING THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO KISS HER. YOU WILL TALK YOURSELF RIGHT PAST THE MOMENT.

Make sure you keep the conversation light and flirtatious. Throw compliments out there, but DO NOT OVER DUE IT. Find a genuinely nice characteristic of hers and let her know you notice it. If she has on a nice smelling perfume let her know that you've noticed. Don't try to flatter her with remarks about her eyes, or how pretty she is. Those are clichés and hardly ever get you anywhere. Compliment things that she can reply to. You tell a girl she is beautiful and there will be silence.

Silence is good if you are at the point where you want to move in for the kiss, but if you are not at that point then you risk a potentially awkward moment.

4. Kiss her already, damn it. I stressed this point in lesson #3 but it is well worth repeating. Until your lips have touched hers you have shit. Shit. Shit. Nothing. You may have had the greatest conversation in the world, but if you leave without kissing her you are no closer to her pussy then you were yesterday. Planting seeds is for farmers my friend. Chances are you won't have another opportunity as perfect as you just blew.

5. The hand is the first step. Before we can kiss a girl we must make use of our hands. This is our way of warning her that it is coming. That way it is not a complete shock when we lean in for the kiss. I'm not talking about molester type shit. I'm talking about making an initial contact. Rubbing her back. Brushing hair away from her eyes. Holding her hand. Holding her hand is the key. If you can get her hand in yours, you are more then half way there. A nice trick is to grab her hand when leading her through a crowded place. It will seem completely appropriate; yet, it creates a certain amount of intimacy. If at all possible keep holding it, once you get her through the crowd, a little longer then necessary.

6. Let her know your intentions if you must leave without kissing her. Yea, I know it happens. There are times that you really can't kiss her right then and there. If this is the case it is vital that you set the terms of your next encounter immediately. Let her know, in not so many words, that when you see her again you intend on kissing her. (hopefully fucking her) Do this by stressing those warning signals I told you about. Use you hand. Hold her hand for a second or two longer then normal while saying goodbye. Tell her that you really want to see her again. Make plans to see her right then and there. Don't leave it up to a phone call. I hate making that call, and I'm sure most of you do to. Set a date, a place, and a time up.

7. Don't act hungry. Those who look hungry never get fed. While you don't want to lose her to the competition, you also don't want to appear desperate. Even if you are. Once you realize that nothing is going to happen tonight, let it go. DO NOT BEG FOR IT. If she has to leave, let her leave. Follow lesson #6 while saying goodbye. But do not try to talk her into staying around. It will kill your chances for next time. Always leave with the upper hand.

8. Be decisive. Make up your mind quickly and stick to that decision firmly. There are a million girls in the world. Unfortunately you can't fuck them all. Decide who the lucky lady is for the night and go for her. Once you have decided, push the other ones out of your mind for the time being. You will spread yourself to thin if you go for more then one girl at a time. Now I'm not saying you can't talk to other girls and use them as jealousy tools, but know who the bitch of the bunch is and go for her 100%. That way if you fail with her- she's off the list.

9. Overcome small obstacles. The difference between a winner and a loser is; a loser gives up that much sooner. A winner figures out a way to win. That is why once you have decided on the girl, you don't give up until you have gotten in her pants or there is a painfully clear rejection. Don't settle for less. When obstacles appear, deal with them, and overcome them. Most of the time the girl is just weeding out the weak. Don't be weak. Girls do not like the weak. If a girl shoots one of your attempts down and you continue on it shows vast amounts of confidence. CONFIDENCE IS THE MOST ATTRACTIVE QUALITY YOU CAN DISPLAY TO HER.

10. There is no perfect moment. This is kind of a rehash of the other nine lessons. Do not wait for the perfect moment to strike up a conversation, ask for the number, hold the hand, or go for the kiss. The perfect moment does not exist. WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MOMENT = ANOTHER NIGHT JERKING OFF. And I don't know about you, but I am sick and tired of stroking my self to sleep.

These are the toughest lessons to master. Why? Because they require a certain amount of balls that we all have but tend to suppress. It is easier to delay. As with anything in life. I learned these lessons the rough way. When I say rough I mean I went months in between fucks. Months! I watched guys not half as good looking, with half the sense of humor, half the knowledge I had, get more pussy in a week then I did in a year. And it hurt. Bad.

I took comfort in the knowledge that I knew more then they did. So fucking what? It is all shit. Until you have that girl naked in your bed begging for your cock to dig inside of her, you have not proven anything to anyone. I was the king of content. If I knew I could have her I was okay. NO MORE! I will say it again loudly, UNTIL YOUR DICK PENETRATES HER PUSSY YOU HAVE JACK SHIT. Try and tell me how you can have any girl you want on any given day, I will laugh in your face. SHOW ME THE PUSSY. Because without it you're a dreamer. And dreams are like thoughts; cheap and meaningless.

Source: Bobby Rio's Seduction Bible

Monday, November 06, 2006

When Should You Be Dominant With Women

You see, some of the guys have the idea that, to really attract women, you must always be in charge, always be in control, always be in command.

Frankly, I think this is a load of hog-wash. Look: while it is true that women are attracted to strength, you also have to be flexible and know when to listen to what she is saying. If all you can be is controlling, commanding and "in charge" you are not only going to turn her off, but you are going to expend needless and wasteful amounts of mental energy, always being on guard against her daring to show any "defiance".

In reality, there are 4 basic energies or attitudes that attract women, and a master seducer (or master seducer in training) can move from one to the other or combine them. Let me sketch it out for you.

The 4 Energies/Attitudes Revealed

The first, of course is being commanding and, yes, dominant. But bear in mind, this just means the will and the ability to take the lead. It does NOT mean being domineering or abusive. It simply means taking and setting the lead, usually in a relaxed way. But it is also combined with a strong amount of generosity and consideration for others.

Tyrant Vs. Emperor

Consider this metaphor: a Tyrant and an Emperor. The Emperor and the Tyrant will both enter a room as if they expect to be obeyed and as if they are use to power with others. The Tyrant, however, cares only for himself and rules with fear. The Emperor rules from respect, but also has a tremendous generosity that he shares with those who serve him and also is open to genuine feedback. He cares for others. The Tyrant cares only for his own needs. Which one has to constantly watch his back and fears attack?

The second energy is that of being playful, funny and fun: the ability to draw out the playful side of a woman and make her feel like a little kid. A good seducer can do this at will.

The third energy is what I call demonstrating insight or being an authority in her world. NOT the authority of threats of force or the gun. But the authority of demonstrating you genuinely understand where she is coming from and where she is at, WITHOUT letting her set the lead and take you there yourself!

The final energy is simple sincerity: being able to speak your truth without apology, hesitation, or need of approval. Sincerity can be extremely persuasive and very powerful.

So, I hope you see that always being "dominant" is about as smart as always throwing a left-hook in a boxing match. You wind up being a bully. However, if you can never be dominant, you wind up being "the nice guy" which I wouldn't wish on anyone!

And, if you can only be playful, funny and fun, you wind up being her party entertainment until the guy she's making it with comes home! Then again, if you can never be playful or funny or fun, you will have a hard time breaking the ice and you will be missing a lot of the fun of being with women!

If you can ONLY be sincere then you leave out the challenge aspect of dealing with women, and women LOVE a challenge! If you can never be sincere, there is no chance of showing the true courage to speak your truth and no chance of any real emotional intimacy.

If you only demonstrate your understanding of her, you wind up being her counselor, psychologist and emotional dumping ground. If you can't demonstrate any understanding of her, she might be very unwilling to accept you lead.

So you see, the key to all of this my dear reader and student is… Balance! Balance and learn these 4 attitudes and energies and the sky's the limit with women!

by Ross Jeffries www.seduction.com

Friday, November 03, 2006

Five Ways To Get Laid On The First Date

Secrets to Getting Laid On The First Date

If you were one of the lucky ones who got to read my article 5 Techniques for Approaching Girls then you know that there is never just five ways of doing anything.

Truth be told, I know more than 5 ways to have sex in the missionary position let alone any other category. The beauty of lists like these here at Seduction Insider is that they are always there for you to reference in case of a dry spell.

No one can make women just appear for sex with the exception of buying a prostitute but there are sure fire point to pay attention too.

Getting laid on the first date is not every man's dream believe it or not some guys really want to have a good time but no man will turn down sex on the first date that is for sure.

And I speak for most women when I say that "if you play your cards right then anything can happen". Getting laid "from scratch" on the first date is rare but not unheard of. Personally, if I want to get laid on the first date my odds of this happening are if I am taking out someone I know a little bit already.

The "Booty Call" for the record is not a date. A date, simply put, is when you spend money and time on a female in hopes of romance but not expecting sex with the intention of asking her out again.

A booty call is when you don't care what it takes to have sex with her but you are sure that you probably won't ask her out again (for a while anyway) and the goal is only sex with little or no romance. Now that you know why "booty calls" did not make the list let's get started.

1. Shoot the fish in the barrel

There is always someone out there more desperate than you. If you know a girl who wants you worse than the lottery and you have kept her at bay for a long time then give her a call. Call her during the day and tell her you want to hang out that same night.

Don't tell her you are taking her out for food or drinks. Tell her you just want her to come over and "watch" a movie, of course you would rather "make" a movie. If she wanted you bad before this then all you have to do is take her for a cup of coffee in public and she will screw your brains out.

2. Old flames never die

…newer flames merely burn brighter. Nothing says good sex like good chemistry. If you have an old flame that you are still friends with that you know would "throw it down" with you then why not call them and remind both of you why you two were together in the first place.

Tell her you don't want "REKINDLE" rather but you want to "RELIVE" a date you two had. Say, "Let's live in the past for 24 hours" and then take her to where you two first had a date and then back to your place for a night cap.

3. Have a few non-dates first

I am the KING of the non-date. The non-date creates the "warm lead". Some girls are savvy and will ask me after the third one if it is a "date" or not. If we have not had sex yet and I don't think we ever will I continue to say "no it is not a date".

But if I have had a couple of "outings" for coffee or whatever and I want to push her over the fence I will call her and say, "no more fooling around - lets get crazy and go dancing and get drunk at my place". Now she knows the next time you two will have coffee is the following morning.

4. The Paid Endorsement

As mentioned in 5 ways of approaching women there is nothing stronger than the paid endorsement. If you have a friend or ex who has referred you or tried to set you up then you know that you are in like Flynn.

My sister has gotten me laid more times than I can count by telling girls, "This is my brother, he is so much fun you two should get along great". Thanks sissy.

5. The Booty Call

Okay so I said that a booty call does not count as a date. Here is the exception to the rule! If you spend money on a female AFTER she has had sex with you then that my brothers is a date!

So call her with the invitation to come over for some fun foreplay and then tell her that when you two wake up you will go for a bike ride in San Diego. Works every time! Think about the 5 ways I just wrote. I bet most of you have peripheral females in your life that are just sitting on the cusp of going to bed with you and you don't marry them or spend a fortune. Dating is expensive and tiresome if you don't plan correctly. I know whether a date was a success or not the moment the girl leaves.

That could be my car, the restaurant or even my house. I know how I feel inside in that very moment if the money was well spent. If I spent 1 hour and was not happy then that cost me more than if I spent $200 in a half hour and was very happy.

Sex is not always the goal for me and most people though it can be a fun part of the evening if both people are on the same page.

Truth is always welcome among females and in fact they ask for it by name. If you are honest about what you want with women you might find that many of them want the same thing.

By Jackson Morris Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com

Five Techniques For Approaching Girls

Secrets to Approaching Women

Today you will get a taste of what you already know and a little bit more.

Whether you are approaching young college chicks or cougars or MILFs each MAN is as different in his approach as every WOMAN that he is approaching so the combinations for chemistry are endless. Men and woman are like Lock & Key and sometimes the key fits better than others.

Something that is sure to oil up those locks is basic FUNDAMENTALS that get her attention and increase your chances of a second meeting - a date. Listed are 5 individual ways that you can use to approach a female and hope that it goes your way.

1) Tickle Her Funny Bone

The pinnacle of pleasure for a female is when she is experiencing joy or LAUGHING. If you can make a woman laugh you can definitely work out a second meeting. Saying something funny to break the ice is top of my list for "first impressions". You could be at a night club or even a coffee shop and even if she can "overhear" you say something funny - you got her! When a female starts laughing or smiling or giggling you have her undivided attention.

Tell her a joke or if you can make a sarcastic reference to something taking place in the environment you're in, that can do the trick also. However you do this make sure you are SMILING when you do it to let her know you are kidding and never open with anything crude, sexual, racial or homophobic. "Granted I know that leaves everything out…" See that was funny!

2) Sell The Farm

Some women who sneak in and read this will be mad at #2 because with it comes some bragging rights. "If you got it - flaunt it". So with that said, another way to approach the ladies is with an offer they can't refuse. Say for instance a day out on the water in my boat!

If you have a boat or a beach house or something expensive, convenient and local then some girls will bite on that the moment you bring it up. The average gal does not get asked to go to dinner in a boat or a private plane. If you got it - flaunt it. And don't feel bad; what you lack in looks and charm you make up for in success and audacity.

3) Flattery Will Get You Everywhere

The right compliment at the right time is always a winner and I will even go as far as saying that this might be number 1 all time for best approaches. Be creative and don't give the patented quotes like, "You have really pretty eyes…" or "You have a really pretty smile…"

The best compliments are the ones she went to the trouble of working on. You should try, "I really like your shoes..." or "That's a pretty outfit you're wearing (that is a good color on you) today…" The best compliment is the one they have not heard in a while or at all. Think about what a woman would compliment if she was complimenting another female and use that as your benchmark.

4) Ignore The Bitch

How can you approach a female by ignoring her? Well my friends that is easy, "By showing her you are ignoring she knows you have noticed her". She will wonder why you are trying so hard to ignore her. If you are in a bar or coffee shop just sit down right next to her and don't speak to her for as long as you can.

The closer you sit to her the less eye contact you make so if you are right next to her then try not to even look at her or say hi. When you know you two are at the pinnacle of curiosity then you turn to her and say something extremely funny. Then don't say anything again until she speaks to you. If it does not work she will be out in a matter of minutes. If you do it right with just the right energy she will be trying to talk to you in less than 10 minutes.

5) Paid Endorsement

The endorsement or the referral is awesome! First of all, this one takes CONFIDENCE with a capital "C". If you have a friend or coworker who has a friend that you want to go out with and the two of you have already met at least once through the mutual friend - then get her number and call her.

She will know the moment you introduce yourself on the phone how much trouble that you went to get her number and contact her. Don't be worried about calling without permission because you have a 50/50 chance with any girl and she is no different. If in the first meeting you picked up on her vibe then she will more than likely welcome the call.

The endorsement or referral works in your favor because the person you are calling already knows that their friend who gave you the number endorses this union or would not have helped.

There are more than the five ways listed to approach a female, in fact this essay was written in a cafй in Southern California and while I was writing it I met Noel. Noel saw me tapping away on my laptop and we started discussing dogs since we both had our dogs with us at the time.

These 5 plus ways all have something in common: confidence and creativity. By the way if you are rich and you are using number 2 to get chicks and you need a running buddy…I am available, I might even bring Noel.

By Jackson Morris Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com

Monday, October 30, 2006

How To Find Her G-Spot

That Really Hit the G-spot!

Did you know that women could have more than one kind of orgasm? Yep, not only are the lucky creatures the owner of the only body part dedicated solely to arousal and sexual pleasure (the love button – aka the clitoris), and able to have multiple orgasms with no down time to recharge, women are also able to have several different types of orgasms from genital stimulation.

Let me break away here for a moment and note that both men and women have the capacity to experience full body orgasms (where men learn to orgasm throughout their entire body without ejaculating, meaning they don’t experience the “down” period of tiredness ejaculation brings on) but that will be the subject of a different article (don’t’ worry, I’m hot on the case doing research).

G-spot And Orgasms

So back to girls and the different types of genital orgasms they can experience. Just about all-genital arousal for women starts with the clitoris; so ignore this magnificent bundle of nerves at your own peril. However, once a woman is fully aroused via clitoral stimulation, you can either add or switch (depending on the woman’s preference) to different types of genital stimulation for variations on the orgasmic bang.

Which brings us to the much wondered about “G-Spot” While scientist and sexuality experts still argue whether the spot actually exists, regular people are quietly (and not so quietly) going about seeking it out and all the pleasurable possibilities it can ignite in their love lives.

Getting to the G-Spot

Okay, so let’s get down to the “G-Spot” basics. First off, the name comes from a Dr. Grafenberg who wrote about this special area of a woman’s anatomy back in the 1950’s - it’s not, however, necessarily a spot. On his website doctorg.org Dr. Gary Schubach, a sex educator and writer, quotes from Grafenberg’s originally published study in order to argue for the existence of the sensitive area and gives a very good explanation of what could be going on:

“Grafenberg does not refer to the G-spot as ‘a small but allegedly highly sensitive area on the anterior wall of the human vagina about a third of the way up from the vaginal opening,’ but to the ‘area’ or ‘zone’ on the upper wall of the vagina through which the prostate (aka Skene`s glands and ducts) can be accessed. In women, the prostate gland, while generally smaller than the male prostate, also surrounds the urethra, close to the urethral opening. The great sensitivity comes not from what is on the upper wall of the vagina, but from glands and ducts behind the vaginal wall.”

It’s very important to pay attention to the fact that the sensitive “G-zone” is apparently behind the vaginal wall as well as the fact that this area isn’t sensitive to stimulation unless a woman is already aroused.

So yes, your girl needs to be totally hot and bothered before you let your fingers do the walking to discovery because otherwise you’re going to come up (pardon the pun) dry. In fact, it’s best if she’s already had at least one orgasm before you go on your search just to make sure she’s totally ready. It’s also important to note that the “G-zone” often needs quite strong stimulation in order to trigger any pleasurable response. These two previous reasons, plus the tricky location, explain why the “G-zone” is so challenging for women to both find and trigger on their own.

It’s great to be needed!

Triggering the G-Spot

So your gal is all hot and bothered, all wet and ready, and now you’re ready to venture forth and see what you can make happen. It’s a good idea to move forward with the idea of “finding pleasure zones in her vagina” rather than getting yourselves stuck on the idea that you will find the G-Spot and it will trigger such an amazing mind blowing orgasm that your gal will weep with the ecstasy of it all.

Don’t get me wrong, that would be a wonderful thing to make happen, but in my experience in dealing with this tricky area it’s more of a process of discovery rather than an immediate eureka! What I mean by this is that in the women who have learned to have orgasms triggered this way find the G-Spot often becomes more sensitive and able to trigger an orgasm over time and, well, use.

Think of it like a muscle, if it hasn’t been used in a long time, or ever, how effective is it going to be the first time it’s called to action?

And of course, it’s important to note that not all women are going to respond to stimulation in this area – and with some women you’re going to find a totally different area in her vagina that’s super sensitive to stimulation that you never new about before.

So it’s important to spend time discovering her magnificent cave and all that’s going on in there.

With this in mind, and with your woman all turned on, she needs to do two things before you can get down to business:

1) She needs to empty her bladder before you begin as you’re going to be stimulating an area close to her bladder and it often makes her feel like she needs to pee when first stimulated. If she’s nice and empty beforehand she won’t be worried about possible leaks.

The G-Spot Needs Easy Access

2) She needs to be in a comfortable position, as do you, and of course one that allows you easy access to the G-Spot. Two good positions are in a big comfortable chair, facing you, with you sitting on the floor in front of her – this way you have access to her clit with your other hand, and your mouth. The second good position is with her lying on her stomach, hips elevated with a pillow, legs wide so you can have easy access to her – and again you might want to be sitting on the ground.

It’s important not to rush forward into fingering her, which might be the thing you’re so use to doing. Instead insert one or two fingers and gently but firmly press against the front wall of her vagina. Starting about an inch or so up start making “come here” motions with your fingers against her vagina, or if that doesn’t feel good to her, press firmly moving your way up. You’re looking for an area that is either swollen or a very different texture (one friend of mine said it felt like the ridges on the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth). Once you hit this area try the come-hither motion, or pressing and rubbing, while at the same time giving her (or she can take charge of this) clitoral stimulation.

The goal is to try and transfer the pleasure from just clitoral stimulation to a combo of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation. This is why it’s a good reason to have her handle her clitoris herself, as she feels new pleasurable sensations in her G-Spot she can back off her clitoris and enjoy what you’re doing…but it’ll be give and take. Remember this is a learning process – but one that will definitely be worth it!

By Grant Day Copyright © 2006, Seduction Insider, www.seductioninsider.com

Thursday, October 26, 2006

How to Get More Blowjobs

“There’s a reason why they call it a job” –actress Kim Cattrall of Sex and the City on a recent Dr. Phil Show when asked about blowjobs.

So recently I was chillin on the couch on a Sunday evening, mindlessly flipping channels, and suddenly, there to brighten my early evening was the gorgeous actress Kim Cattrall on Dr. Phil. Apparently she was acting as a sort of sidekick on a show about the common sexual challenges couples are faced with (she’s just brought out a book called “Sexual Intelligence” which I’m sure we’ll be reviewing soon). You know the complaints, no time for sex, no interest in sex, and the one that really caught my attention – a man wondering how in the heck to get his girlfriend to give him more blowjobs.

Ah, now that’s an important question.

See, the problem is that the girlfriend thinks all oral sex is disgusting (even when she’s on the receiving end – yes, Ms. Cattrall was as amazed as I was). But in the beginning of the relationship, when they were first dating, she participated in both giving blowjobs and receiving cunninlingus as if she enjoyed it. As Dr. Phil so aptly put it, “she pulled a bait n’ switch.”

Just in case I need to spell it out for you, that’s a woman who pretends to enjoy sex (rather than truly get in touch with what she wants and needs to enjoy herself with you sexually) in the beginning of the relationship in order to move you toward commitment.

Blowjob Bait n` Switch

I waited eagerly for the good doctor’s advice, but Dr. Phil really didn’t have great solutions for how to solve this most serious of challenges (at least for men). He pointed out that you can’t really force your woman to give you blowjobs, which is true (unless you want to go to jail), and how good important communication is, but when the lovely Cattrall tried to move things into a practical how-to-get-things-started kind of way it was on to another couple and another challenge.

So since Dr. Phil wasn’t ready to answer the question on national T.V. I’m ready to step in to fill the gap – I’m just bummed I don’t get the sexy Cattrall as my sidekick.

But before we get into how to get more blowjobs, more oral sex, we need to get clear about why girls don’t want to go south in the first place:

Why Many Women Don`t Enjoy Blowjobs

  1. You’re Selfish and Don’t Reciprocate
  2. You Smell Funky
  3. Your Pubic Hair is Out of Control and Constantly Gets in Her Mouth
  4. It Takes Forever to Get You Off
  5. You Insist She Swallow and She Hates How You Taste
  6. And last but not least... She Never Enjoyed It But She Pretended to in the Beginning to Get You to Commit

As you can see, the top five reasons women avoid giving blowjobs are fairly simple things to fix. If you’re selfish you need to get over yourself because sooner or later it’s not only blowjobs you won’t be getting anymore. And it’s easy enough to take a shower or a soak before getting naked, and trimming your forest of pubic hair if it’s out of control, and if it comes down to choosing between no blowjobs vs. simply no swallowing where’s the contest really?

I have heard, however, that drinking more sweet fruit juice, like papaya, can greatly help the taste of your output.

But what the heck do you do about the fact that it takes such long time for you to reach an orgasm during a blowjob that she’s plain worn out?

Let’s face it; we love getting blowjobs because of the mental and visual stimulation more than the physical. Unless we’re still in adolescence (or virgins who don’t masturbate), the stimulation of a woman’s mouth just can’t match that of your own knowledgeable hand or the fabulous pussy. That can mean a woman has to work really hard, for quite a long time in order to take you over the edge. Sooner or later she may decide that the benefits you give in return for her getting a sore tired jaw and a stiff neck just aren’t worth it.

"Free Blowjobs - That`s What Wives Are For"

Several years ago I found an old Playboy of my Father’s when I was helping clean out my parent’s garage. Flipping through it I found an article by the porn star Nina Hartley who admitted she never refused her husband blowjobs – as long as they only lasted five minutes.

Now I don’t know if most women would be quite as generous about giving a blowjob whenever their man felt like one, but I know there are all kinds of women out there who would be far more generous with the mouth action if the act could be brought to fruition quickly. But how do you make it happen? How do you shorten the amount of time it takes?

You cheat. That’s right. You bring in assistance. Whether you get things started yourself, or she uses her hands as well, or toys, or whatever your combined imaginations can come up with (and I think you can get pretty creatively crazy if you both put your minds to it). The key is to get out of the mindset that she’s got to use her mouth from start to finish in order for them to be real blowjobs and instead get into the mindset that the easier you make it for her, the more frequently you’re going to feel her lips around your Johnson.

But now we’ve got to tackle the problem of women who say that going down on a man just isn’t for them. This is where good communication really does come in. You need to find out why she’s not into it. If you’re gal’s refusing because she thinks it’s degrading or perverted it’s better to know now. Perhaps she equates women giving blwojobs to being subservient, in which case you can talk through it and find out if there are ways to work it so she doesn’t feel this way. If she thinks it’s perverted it’s a bigger challenge, but again a good honest talk, where you’re willing to listen rather than demand can do much to move you in the right direction.

And what about if she’s pulled a “bate n’ switch” with the blowjobs she`s given you? Check out next week`s article -- we`ve got some simple seduction techniques you can use to get those blowjobs coming your way again.

Hot Foreplay Tips

"Slow down big boy - you'll get everything on the menu but let's start with a little appetizer..."

She pushed me down on the couch on my back and slowed me down. I needed to slow down; I was trying to get her top off like I was stealing it.

She climbed on top of me and put her forefinger over my mouth as to silence anything I was about to say. She said in a mere whisper, "Slow down big boy - you will get everything on the menu but let's start with a little appetizer".

She was right - I went into overdrive like I was driving a Lamborghini, hard and fast. She was so beautiful and feminine how could I resist?

I did not have to resist because she wanted me to have everything on the menu - she just wanted me to "play with my food" first for a while.

If humans were car engines then the females would have one prerequisite: HEAT IT UP FIRST. Men can go from 0-60 in under 10 seconds but the female engine needs to be warmed up and lubricated before they will run the big race. Granted some females love a good quickie sometimes but when it comes to real sex and real love-making the game any woman wants to play is FOREPLAY.

Foreplay is most definitely the bricks and mortar of a good lover. A good lover is not measured in penis length or bra size. Good lovers do not posses magic powers or have hypnotic potions that create this aura about their sexual prowess. A good lover is about GIVING and SATISFYING their partner thru SEDUCTION and unselfish behavior. Nothing exemplifies this more than foreplay. It is the game before the game.

Imagine you are making a movie where you are the star...

When you PLAY with your partner imagine that you get to live vicariously through the movie industry and you are the big star. If you were "playing" with your partner and the camera was rolling you would not hurry or speed things up. You would play to the camera and make it as sexy as possible. Using every sense you have, your fingers, your mouth and in some cases even your warm whispery breath can be part of the fun.

When two people get together for intense sexual pleasure they both have an agenda and fantasies on their mind. Even partners we have had sex with in the past can create new fantasies and desires. Experimenting is not only fun for you but your partner as well. Surprise the person you have been sleeping with by giving them a full body massage followed by a "snow job".

If you want a great example of foreplay - lay your partner down on their back and you go up and down their body with your mouth, never touching the naughty bits but everything else. Use your warm mouth to suck and bite and tease their erogenous zones and lick them behind the ears or bite the top of their shoulders - literally devour them with your mouth.

The more you treat your partner as something you eat and not something you dominate the more erotic and heightened the pleasure will be for the both of you. Sensual massage is a great place to start. You don't have to be a pro to "touch" someone. We all take great pleasure in being touched, massaged and caressed by another to the point of arousal.

Use your hands, forearms, chest, elbows and even your chin to get into your partner's muscles and deep tissue. This massage and touch will relax and stimulate your partner at the same time - remember the camera is rolling.

Foreplay Zones

As mentioned there are certain zones on the body that are more stimulating than others. After the massage, use SOFT strokes and touch to stimulate your partner. Roll your finger tips across their nipples and behind their ears as you kiss them and tease them with your tongue. When your partner gets impatient and aggressive during the foreplay it means you are doing something right.

I know I am turned on when I just can't take it anymore. When you can't physically take it anymore - you must! You must endure the taunting and teasing of your senses because they must also endure you and your warm tongue as you bring them to get chills across their thighs.

Foreplay is as much of an art form as it is a "necessity". Think about this for a second - if you make love and it only lasts 20 minutes then you are having a good time. If you have 25 minutes of foreplay before the 20 minute lovemaking session then everybody is having a GREAT TIME and you look good! Foreplay can include, toys, tools, ties and even food.

There is no limit to foreplay either - so if you want to watch a person spontaneously combust then tease them for an hour straight before you take care of business. Don't be afraid to experiment with sex toys and oils because both can enhance sexual pleasure considerably for both parties. Like a machine everyone needs to stay nice and lubricated to keep things "fun".

Take Care Of Her First, Then Take Turns

The rules of foreplay are standard worldwide and there is only one: Take care of your partner first. Good foreplay is when one guy/girl gets great pleasure out of pleasing his/her lover. You might think how two people can accommodate each other if they are both trying to accommodate each other at the same time. The answer is: Take turns.

Taking turns pleasing and teasing each other is part of every session you have together. When it comes to mutual satisfaction where two people are trying to accomplish the same goal then remember that this is the only time when the order is not, "ladies first" - take care of her and she will no doubt take care of you.


Wednesday, October 25, 2006

What do women really desire in a man?

What do women really desire in a man?

  • He's cute (handsome)
  • He's physically fit
  • He's a nice guy
  • He's famous
  • He's rich
  • He drives a nice car

Then why is it that we sometimes see average guys with hot women? You know that scrawny average guy you see with the hot 9 or 10 in the supermarket and you ask yourself "Whats she doing with him?" or "What does he have that I don't?".

Is it luck? Yeah maybe sometimes but by far what you have to begin to understand is that its not her bad taste in men or what he has that you don't rather its "WHAT HE DOES" that drives this woman hot crazy horny for him. For starters he had the balls and confidence to breath a word to this woman when most guys freeze up and choke.

Go ahead and ask any woman the same question and she'll tell you the same bs. " I want a man that is a nice guy, cute, has money blah blah blah... "


Extensive research proves that although all of these above factors will help improve your chances of getting her attention, above all its a guy's... We've discovered it and you'll be surprised...

by Chris Gonzalez

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Fast and Easy Tips to Avoid Being "Just Friends"

Don't worry, it happens to each and every one of us. We meet a woman, she is gorgeous, intelligent, and seems into us. And then, just as we are about to move to kiss her, she throws up her hands and delivers the CLASSIC line:

Let's Just Be Friends

Ugh... our hearts drop, we feel embarrassed, and our masculinity plummets. What happened? What went wrong?

There is no fail-safe method to preventing this, but there are some tried and true tips to help stave-off this dreaded phrase. Here we go.

Be physical

No, I don't mean wrestle with her, but I do mean for you to TOUCH her. Perhaps you just met her, and have been talking for 5-10 minutes - touch her lightly on the hand or the shoulder. Or, you are out on your first date, offer your arm to her as you cross the street or subtly place your hand on her lower back. These are masculine moves, which signal to her that this is a romantic interaction, not a "friendly" one.

Be bold

Ultimately guys, she is looking to you to be both sensitive to her and to the moment. If the window opens for a kiss, be bold, and go for it. If you allow too many of these to pass, the energy changes, and you classify YOURSELF as a "friend". Even if she rejects your advance, it is far better to go for it that not. You get nowhere fast by hoping a kiss magically happens. If she does reject you, this doesn't mean you cannot try again later. Also, she may be saving you a lot of time by indicating that she simply is not interested in you. Better to find out now...

Challenge her

Too often we are so eager to please the woman that we fail to be ourselves. If we are really focused and moving our lives forward, our attractiveness to women increases tremendously. In my ebook, "How To Get A Girlfriend", I discuss this in length. A woman, intuitively, biologically, is seeking a man who will be firm and steadfast in his resolve, and his purpose. The way we demonstrate this is in not accepting her at her fullest. So, if you feel that she is not really living up to her potential, TELL HER. If she is allowing herself to slip into mediocrity, TELL HER. Do it tenderly, and with love, but be sure to do it. Don't accept less than her best.

There you go guys. If you can do these three things with consistency, you will never find yourself hearing those awful words again..."Let's Just Be Friends". There will be times when you do not get the girl, but you will always be firm in your purpose maintaining your integrity. And, you will be better prepared for the NEXT girl, just around the corner.

If you want to know more about EXACTLY how to incorporate this belief set, and skyrocket your dating success, check out my ebook "How To Get A Girlfriend". You can download it to your computer, and be reading it in less than 5 minutes. Want to get this area handled ASAP? Go for it now.

Also, if you have questions that you feel are suitable for our mailbag series, feel free to email them to me at: Stephen@ceimageconsulting.com.

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

First Date Etiquette

Good Manners On The First Date

Let's assume for a second that all of you DON'T have a mother. That way when you act unscrupulously with your manners in front of ANY FEMALE we would have something legitimate to blame it on. Assuming you DO have a mother then you will be addressed with the same standards of male etiquette and courtesies that one's mother would come to expect from her son.

All the females in your life, you mother, your sister, your girlfriend your secretary, your boss should all be receiving the same standards of male etiquette. This applies to manners on a date as well as with female friends and family.

Make Her Laugh And Make Her Feel Safe

The reason I would possibly bring up your mother on Seduction Insider is even your mother would approve of us teaching you what most likely fell on deaf ears in your home growing up under her wing. If you read any of my columns here then you would know I teach two things about seducing a female; make her laugh and "make her feel safe".

Making a female feel safe comes in many different forms and your behavior and etiquette will suggest a lot about your character and if she will "feel safe" with you. So the basic fundamentals that will apply here are: If it is good enough for mom then it is good enough for all females. The basics are always the best place to start with etiquette and manners.

So PLEASE pay attention to the next sentence, THANK YOU. Did you catch that? I asked you to do something by saying please first and whether you do it or not I followed that with thank you. Your manners on a date will require this more than you imagine. If you are on a first date and you are not using the basic please and thank you courtesies to the server then she knows what NOT to expect from your relationship - courtesy.

Please & thank you is the most basic of courtesies and the most obvious when they are missing so don't miss it even once in the presence of a female regarding a request or fulfillment.

The next item on mom's checklist is "walk the walk". Be a man! Do you know where you are supposed to walk on the street with your date or any other female?

Walk On The Outside - The Sreetside!

Yes, if you are walking down the street with ANY female YOU are supposed to walk on the outside of the street. This is such an important etiquette among females and they will notice it for sure.

Good girls are old fashioned and they notice instantly when a boy is being well mannered/old fashioned with his manners on a date. When you walk her to the car stand in front of her a bit so she knows YOU are going to open the door. If she begins to reach for the handle - either grasp the handle first or simply reach gently for her hand and say, "I will get that".

When you drive up to a location with your "date" or your mother (no one else applies) look to see if she is hesitating before she exits the vehicle - she might be suggesting you walk around the other side to get her door. If any woman in your car is 60 or over you will get the door for her regardless of whether she is your mother or your date.

Walk on the outside, open the car (any) doors, please & thank you; these are the starters or appetizers to your manners on date.

If you are not with your mother and you are on a date then the next thing you should watch for is YOUR MOUTH. On the date make sure you NEVER chew with your mouth OPEN, rinse after chewing with water if you're eating salad to dislodge any green leaves that might be stuck in there.

Never talk with your mouth FULL. Cover your mouth when you cough & turn your head from the table. If you get a bone or piece of fat that you can not chew - simply take it out and place it on a bev-nap or the corner of the plate - that is the ONLY time you will put your fingers in your mouth the entire time you are at the table.

This means no teeth picking even with a toothpick. After you are done eating simply excuse yourself to the men's room - there you will check your nose and teeth for foreign objects that need to be removed.

Keeping your "space" is also an essential mannerism to making her feel safe. This means only touch her when necessary until you are certain she wants you to touch her. Don't wear too much cologne or after shave (yuk) because your smell can invade her space as well.

Always make eye contact on the date and don't interrupt her when she is speaking. These are the most basic of manners on a date and normal everyday etiquette that you should exude with men and women alike.

How you "act" with your manners and courtesies will make her feel safe because showing these actions means you care about others and how you affect them. She will know that you have her best interests in mind while you are together.

These behaviors also suggest maturity - a trait that all women look for in a man - even the funny ones. The next time you walk down the street with a female or share a meal with your date - treat her as if everyone is watching you - especially your mother.


Monday, October 16, 2006

Training Your Girlfriend

When you first start dating a new girlfriend, you want to be on your best behavior. Sure, you want to make a good impression, but what you're really doing is catering to her to get sex.

The problem is, the power base shifts to her right from the outset and she knows it. She's in charge of access to the zipper and she counts on you bending over backward to gain entry. So she's got you.

But there's more to it than that.

You might not be aware of it, but what she's really up to is training you to be what she calls a "gentleman" -- acting nice and accommodating, paying for her meals and chauffeuring her around like a servant. And that's not all. She's also busy laying her traps to lock you into this pattern for the course of the relationship.

Before you know it, she'll have you on her leash, following her around like a puppy dog, eagerly awaiting her next command, and lapping up the few sexual kibbles she tosses at you to keep you at "heel."

Sounds despicable, doesn't it? Yet girlfriends do it to men all the time. Why? Because we let them. We allow them to treat us like obedient pets, with sex as our reward for the "correct" behavior.

But what if you don't want to wind up as your girlfriend's puppy dog? Is there any way out of this canine catastrophe? The answer is "yes."

The trick is to beat her to the punch -- act fast and treat her like one first. A girlfriend can make a best friend and ideal companion, but like any bitch (female dog, that is), she needs to be taught how to act around the house. So you have to set the ground rules early by enrolling her in your own private obedience school.

Common Obedience Problems


She's out of control and constantly acts up. Brainwashed by a steady diet of Oprah and "feminist" propaganda, she's now "empowered," meaning that her thoughts run somewhere along these lines: "Men have been holding me back, I want mine now, and I don't care what pair of testicles I have to step on to get it." Since a girlfriend's brain is unable to distinguish emotion from logic, this kind of fantasy thinking will prompt her to act in self-destructive patterns and will cause you undue stress around the house.


She doesn't like to be left alone. She pouts when you hook up for the weekly poker game with your buddies. She harps at you to buy her something, and when she gets it, she doesn't want it anymore (or demands something even more expensive). She nags that you watch too much ESPN. She's always whimpering that she's too fat, too old or not pretty enough. She craves constant attention.


Yap, yap, yap. She talks incessantly. But the problem is that she goes on and on and on about nothing. You're on the phone, trying to close a business deal, and there she is in the background, yipping about her new pair of shoes.


Like a dog, she is hard to train. No matter what you want, she always insists on getting her own way, then throws a tantrum or cuts off sex if you oppose her. She's always escaping from the yard to go shopping. And she won't respect your commands ("roll over," "lie down," "play dead").


She always "begs" with her hands on her hips -- never on all fours. All you hear from her is, "I want this," "Give me that" (on your credit card, of course) and "My girlfriend's boyfriend bought her a car -- why are you so cheap?" Not to mention that she expects to be regularly taken out for expensive dinners.

House destruction

You just can't leave her alone in your place. You go out for a few hours to play golf, and when you come back, your autographed Bears poster and leather couch have been replaced by flower prints and a shrimp-colored loveseat. And there are friggin' valances on the windows.

Not fetching

An improperly trained girlfriend doesn't know that she should always bring you a beer without having to be asked.


Girlfriends are naturally attracted to bright, shiny objects (like jewelry) and fast-moving luxury cars. An untrained girlfriend will abandon you and run after any male who happens by with a few baubles and a Porsche.

Not being housetrained

Girlfriends are notorious for not knowing how to put the toilet seat back up.

Training Your Girlfriend

You can see how much upset an untrained girlfriend can bring into your life. So how can you counteract these bad behaviors?

Act early and often

Girlfriends have to be taught obedience from day one, or they will soon think that their bad behavior will be tolerated. Once improper patterns have been imprinted on the female brain, they can be extremely difficult to alter - you can't teach an old girlfriend new tricks. The idea is to set the ground rules at the beginning of the relationship so that she can understand what's expected of her. This means your regular night out with the guys, sharing dating expenses and sex on your terms.

Don't be afraid to say "no"

As many would believe, girlfriends aren't usually as bright as men, so they typically have to be told more than once. And spank her if she continues to misbehave. If she likes it, spank her a lot.

Use operant conditioning

Freely encourage her good behaviors (being in heat, excessive licking, humping, and especially obeying the command, "Down, girl!") with praise and rewards while ignoring the bad. The idea is not to punish her for doing something wrong (unless she's into that sort of thing), but to withhold attention from the behaviors you don't like. This way, she will slowly catch on and eliminate the unwanted patterns from her repertoire. As she starts to become dependent upon your approval or disapproval, she will act more agreeably and respectfully toward you.

Practice Makes Perfect

All in all, obedience training is one of the best things you can do for your girlfriend and yourself, because a well-trained girlfriend makes for a happy relationship. It can enrich your dating life by eliminating unwanted behaviors and can make your time together much more enjoyable. The ultimate result is that you'll wind up with a girlfriend who will treat you well and work hard to please you... the perfect pet to have around the house.

By Matthew Fitzgerald

Sunday, October 15, 2006

How To Get The First Kiss

How To Tell If She's Into You

There is a tradition in modern day seduction called the 90/10 rule. This rule, with its best intentions is made to create something from "suggestion". If you are an avid reader here at SI then you know full well the power of suggestion.

Even when "asking" a girl out on a date you can use "suggestion" without even asking for the date. For instance, "We should get together and have coffee sometime". That last sentence was a verbal example of the 90/10 rule. Suggesting you should have coffee is as good as asking to have coffee without the rejection. It is hard to reject a suggestion.

Most people know the 90/10 rule from movies like Hitch where the rule is applied when two people are about to kiss. The 90/10 rule in getting the first kiss is when you move in close to your partner - about 90% of the way and your partner must make the last 10% by moving toward you. Whether it is called suggestion or not - there is no doubt that when you move in 90% and stop the other person will know what you are implying: lip lock.

Getting The First Kiss

It should come as no surprise that we use terms like 90/10 rule because it is all a numbers game anyway so why not know the ratios that are intimate? If you talk to enough girls then you will eventually have more dates. When you have more dates then you have better chances for romance.

Where there is romance there is SEDUCTION. That is the sequence in which you plant your 90/10 flowers to grow. The odds are always in the favor of EFFORT. Where there is effort there are results - write that down.

Through this maze of numerical ambiance you must be able to recognize when the balance of the scales are in your favor. Sometimes it is YOU that is on the fence because you think you are reading all the signs clearly from your partner. You may think they are "on board" but you are not sure and want to find out in the most subtle way possible.

This is where the 90/10 rule lives. That crazy place between two people in the abyss of unknown emotion - a place where you both want "something" and neither of you know what it is yet that the other one wants. You FEEL the energy between the both of you and something starts to brew and you slowly start to connect the dots. You know it is up to you to make it happen but your brain and some little tiny piece of you is holding you back from going for the goal and crossing the finish line. Reach in your pocket and pull out the 90/10 rule - it is why it is there.


I just painted a scenario of emotions everyone has felt but not everyone has acted on. The 90/10 rule is not just about the kissing. The kissing (best case scenario) is when you follow the aforementioned and when you feel it you don't hesitate - you initiate.

I will now give you the 90/10 rule in STAGES from beginning to end:


You are in a grocery store checking out someone hot and instead of speaking first you walk over and stand right next to them to shop (90%) and wait for them to speak to you (10%).

The Line:

The person at the grocery store has now started a conversation with you (90%) and is waiting for you to make a "suggestion" (10%) like "we should have coffee sometime".

The Date:

When the date has gone well - at the end you will lean in (90%) and wait for them (10%) to kiss you.

The ACT:

When you two are alone and being intimate for the first time - instead of trying to take their clothes off you take off your top (90%) and see if they strip themselves of the other 10%.

The best way to approach this rule is with your GUT INSTINCT. There is no doubt if you are nervous then you are probably on the right track. One must go out on the limb if one seeks "the fruit". When you feel that moment of SEDUCTION that overwhelms you and even vexes you then you are THERE. Lean in and be ready to get the gifts that are waiting.

Every joy has some price to be paid. The 90/10 rule comes with one as well:

How To Handle Awkward Moments

If you are a female there will be fewer awkward moments with the 90/10 rule because the female instincts are much more reliable than a man's. A big mistake men make is that they think that when a female is having a good time it translates into the female wanting to be with the male - not true.

Men must know that there will be times that the female is not on the same page and that the 90/10 rule does not even matter. If she is not ready she is not ready so learn to tell JOKES. Be quick with a comment or something that makes her laugh because even if you two are not on the same page LAUGHTER will bring you closer to it.

Of course you should probably lean back before you tell the joke if she did not lean in.

So you must be ready with that "quick comeback" or "funny quip" in case the signs are read wrong between yourself and a female. If you lean in 90% and she does not even give you 1% then I hope your breath is fresh, and you have a great smile… and you kept the car running.


Thursday, October 05, 2006

Laws of Men

Here are laws of men laid out in the Bible.

  1. Under no circumstances may two men share an umbrella.
  2. It is OK for a man to cry ONLY under the following:
    • When a heroic dog dies to save its master.
    • The moment Angelina Jolie starts unbuttoning her blouse.
    • After wrecking your boss's car.
    • One hour, 12 minutes, 37 seconds into "The Crying Game".
    • When she is using her teeth.
  3. Any Man who brings a camera to a bachelor party may be legally killed and eaten by his buddies.
  4. Unless he murdered someone in your family, you must bail a friend out of jail within 12 hours.
  5. If you've known a guy for more than 24 hours, his sister is off limits forever unless you actually marry her.
  6. Moaning about the brand of free beer in a buddy's fridge is forbidden. However complain at will if the temperature is unsuitable.
  7. No man shall ever be required to buy a birthday present for another man. In fact, even remembering your buddy's birthday is strictly optional. At that point, you must celebrate at a strip bar of the birthday boy's choice.
  8. On a road trip, the strongest bladder determines pit stops, not the weakest.
  9. When stumbling upon other guys watching a sporting event, you may ask the score of the game in progress, but you may never ask who's playing.
  10. You may flatulate in front of a woman only after you have brought her to climax. If you trap her head under the covers for the purpose of flatulent entertainment, she's officially your girlfriend.
  11. It is permissible to drink a fruity alcohol drink only when you're sunning on a tropical beach... and it's delivered by a topless model and only when it's free.
  12. Only in situations of moral and/or physical peril are you allowed to kick another guy in the nuts.
  13. Unless you're in prison, never fight naked.
  14. Friends don't let friends wear Speedos. Ever. Issue closed.
  15. If a man's fly is down, that's his problem, you didn't see anything.
  16. Women who claim they "love to watch sports" must be treated as spies until they demonstrate knowledge of the game and the ability to drink as much as the other sports watchers.
  17. A man in the company of a hot, suggestively dressed woman must remain sober enough to fight.
  18. Never hesitate to reach for the last beer or the last slice of pizza, but not both, that's just greedy.
  19. If you compliment a guy on his six-pack, you'd better be talking about his choice of beer.
  20. Never join your girlfriend or wife in discussing a friend of yours, except if she's withholding sex pending your response.
  21. Phrases that may NOT be uttered to another man while lifting weights:
    • Yeah, Baby, Push it!
    • C'mon, give me one more! Harder!
    • Another set and we can hit the showers!
  22. Never talk to a man in a bathroom unless you are on equal footing: i.e., both urinating, both waiting in line, etc. For all other situations, an almost imperceptible nod is all the conversation you need.
  23. Never allow a telephone conversation with a woman to go on longer than you are able to have sex with her. Keep a stopwatch by the phone. Hang up if necessary.
  24. The morning after you and a girl who was formerly "just a friend" have carnal, drunken monkey sex, the fact that you're feeling weird and guilty is no reason for you not to nail each other again before the discussion occurs about what a big mistake it was.
  25. It is acceptable for you to drive her car. It is not acceptable for her to drive yours.
  26. Thou shalt not buy a car in the colors of brown, pink, lime green, orange or sky blue.
  27. The girl who replies to the question "What do you want for Christmas?" with "If you loved me, you'd know what I want!" gets an Xbox. End of story.
  28. There is no reason for guys to watch Ice Skating or Men's Gymnastics. Ever.

We've all heard about people having guts or balls. But do you really know the difference between them? In an effort to keep you informed, the definition of each is listed below:

"GUTS" is arriving home late after a night out with the guys, being assaulted by your wife with a broom, and having the guts to say, "are you still cleaning or are you flying somewhere?"

"BALLS" is coming home late after a night out with the guys smelling of perfume and beer, lipstick on your collar, slapping your wife on the ass and having the balls to say, "You're next!"

Why She Doesn’t Appreciate Your Kindness

Here is a short article by Ross Jeffries. It kind of goes with the whole why do girls not go for the nice guy question. The more I think about I realize that most women are correct in their conclusions about the overly nice guy. Below is Ross’s thoughts on the idea.

I can say from personal experience that women of Russian origin are similar to Asian women in that they view niceness and acts of kindness as indicators of strength, whereas American women view niceness and acts kindness as indicators of weakness.

Here is MY answer:

Uh uh uh…depends Depends. Depends.

If it reeks of need or pressure, they don’t want it.

If it’s freely given or given from a place of abundance AND you have established authority and respect, it’s usually a-ok.

Most unappreciated “kindness” is unappreciated because:

  1. You didn’t establish respect/authority or get any investment from her in the interaction/transaction BEFORE the kindness.
  2. She’s a twist and just doesn’t trust any kindness. Ok. They are out there. Best to run away or play the villain only a VERY short while. But aware, please: if you stare into the abyss to get your cues and clues on how to respond and behave, the abyss also stares long and hard into you. And what it gazes at it molds and shapes. So don’t look long.
  3. It wasn’t really kindness but need or pressure.
  4. She’s a super-twist and not only doesn’t trust kindness, she WANTS to be punished. Run, RUN, R-U-N away.
  5. She doesn’t like the psychological pressure of having to live up to the ideal you think of her as; putting her on a pedestal gives her cramps, a nose bleed and a nasty migraine, so she kicks you in the face as she steps off to be human.
  6. You are giving her the kindness you THINK she wants or that you enjoy giving and not what the kindness she really needs. If she craves physical affection and you buy her gifts it isn’t her fault that you aren’t paying attention.

Given the right context and a reasonably ok psyche (and it isn’t that rare) most women will soak up appropriate, NON NEEDY, NON PUSHY kindness. Some are twists. Some just crave excitement and drama and dominance more than the cuddlies, wuddlies and warm fuzzies. The most confusing ones crave one over the other depending on their mood of the day or time of the month.

Bottom line:

  1. Screen your woman
  2. Establish boundaries, self-respect/authority in her world.
  3. Those who require punishment or who never trust kindness need to be left behind. After some experiences (some painful ones probably) you will develop the intuition to quickly tell who’s who in this regard.
  4. Get a good initial read, if you can, on whether they more strongly prefer excitement, drama and being dominated to being cared for and looked after, or in what proportion they want each. I prefer a woman who is a good mix of both; if she doesn’t like excitement she’s probably a lousy fukkk. If she can’t take kindness, then I can’t open my heart to her and the sex becomes nothing more than an energy dump; fun, but numbing and draining.

Hint: Learn to read the chakra at the hara or t’an t’ien. which relates to power and will issues and you will get an idea of where they are at. And EXPECT the unexpected because with women, it IS going to happen.


How To Create Attraction

Discover The Traits That Create Attraction - Then Use These Traits To Pick Up Women

Traits That Trigger Attraction

Someone once told me that a man's attraction to a female is 80% physical. I disagree - I believe initially it is 100% physical... though the percentage changes to other categories the longer he knows her.

Men are wired a little differently than females because as much as females love an attractive man - they seek a "good" man or a man of substance and character. The longer they get to know the man he becomes more appealing or attractive to her physically because he is attractive to her mentally.

Physical attraction is hardwired in the brain with many people who have a "TYPE". If your type is a blonde with big boobs then she will always get your attention and you will seek or hunt that "type". If you like the intelligent type then you might be attracted to good looks that are accompanied by "intelligent looks".

Certain personality traits signal or trigger attraction to the opposite sex like for instance charm or charisma. These characteristics - charm & charisma can not be seen necessarily but are felt by the other person and are massive contributors to feeling attraction but more importantly CREATING ATTRACTION.

Build It... She Will Come

You can make yourself more attractive in the obvious and traditional sense as well and actually you should start right there. If you hang out at places where guys where nice shirts then you should probably make sure that you have a nice shirt.

I am not saying you have to be materialistic but you must give yourself some style if you want to stand out in a crowd. With that said - being in top physical shape is going to increase your attraction factor considerably.

Dressing nice all the time is great but if you look great UNDRESSED that is even better for creating attraction. Females want a guy who takes care of himself and works out. Working out takes discipline and stamina - two things you can't go without in a relationship. That makes you a good candidate right away. If you are in shape and you dress well then that is a BONUS.

Creating attraction is like creating ATMOSHPHERE - If you can create an atmosphere that is conducive to easy communication and comfort for her then you will see her respond. Women might notice you if you are tall dark and handsome but she will notice you more if you are smiling and appearing to be having a good time. Women inherently want to smile and have fun so when the see others and most especially men in a jovial or jocular mood - THAT is a fun atmosphere.

Think about this in the world of interpersonal relationships, flirting and creating attraction: (example) Imagine standing in the grocery store line and there is a girl behind you - if you keep turning around and staring at her even with a smile without saying anything she will think you are creepy.

* Now on the other hand if you offer to let her go ahead of you in line it will be her who has to thank you as well as do the "turning around". That is a small example of how to Create Attraction from a tiny social situation.

The way to determine how to do what I just stated in EVERY situation is to think to your self as it happens what would be most beneficial to her and how can you change the ATMOSPHERE to a more congenial setting.

Throw A Party

Want to really turn it up notch in the attraction laboratory then "throw a party". I like to throw parties occasionally and I will go out of my way to invite females that I "just met". A party is a place where they can bring their friends to party with them so they feel comfortable going and they know there will be other guys there as well. A party is a place where all the singles can mingle and there is NO PRESSURE on anyone to do anything other than…party.

Social gatherings CREATE ATTRACTION for everyone because you feel like you are surrounded by like minded people looking to do the same things as you. You can get a feel for how much they drink or how loud or how cute their laugh is and see if they are a big flirt or just a big flirt with you.

If you are unable to throw a party then make sure that if you get invited to one you don't turn it down. Females go to parties to have a great time - hopefully it will be with you.

It is not your responsibility to be the life of the party all the time or to be the best looking guy in the room or the best dressed all the time. That will be attractive to some but not all for the right reasons - your responsibility is to take each woman individually and deal with her one on one without a premeditated script.

Treat her like you would your sister and make her laugh like your best friend and she will want to know everything about you. Be you and don't compromise to impress anyone.

Creating attraction should come naturally to both you and the person you are feeling it with. Never force attraction because it will never work out. For instance, if you have to convince someone you are worthy of a date then they will always being questioning if you are worthy of a date.

If you go with the flow and make your self polite, accessible, charming and generous you will be noticed for those qualities first and foremost. Luckily for men women don't base the initial judgment of us 100% on physical appearance as we do them or some guys would be alone forever.

Make yourself someone worth knowing and the rest will fall in your lap.