Negs are generally used on attractive and very attractive women! They serve numerous purposes, including slightly lowering a girl’s self-esteem so she’s more vulnerable to pick-up, displaying higher value, lowering a girl’s bitch shield, etc.
An HB (Hot Bitch) is there, surrounded by her friends. She has put on this BITCH act. Is she REALLY a bitch? Unlikely. All my girlfriends were wonderful human beings. Beautiful people have it easier because they are beautiful and often times have better upbringings because of it.
BUT - she needs to have a standard when all these NOBODY guys approach her. So her values are very honed and understood. When a man walks up and says, "Can I buy you a beer" this WILL annoy her. While the guy thinks he's doing something nice for her, she gets this ALL the time. She is desensitized to this. You are the 8th guy TODAY!
So she is very good at brushing all these guys off. She HAS to be... she isn't going to sleep with ALL of them! So she may say NO, or act annoyed, and then the guy thinks she's a bitch and he walks off pissed and feeling like a failure. And that seems to work. Sometimes when the girl is particularly in a feeling of control (like in a club where she is PREPARED for the barrage of men - it IS after all something that occurs so often that when it is GONE she MISSES it) she will accept the beer and then flake the guy off. Hey, the guys are stupid enough to buy her one; she might as well take it.
When she accepts a beer from you, the girl is saying to you, "I don't know you and I don't care about you. You are just another one of those typical guys and since I don't respect you, I'll take the beer from you before I snub you."
Since an HB is so GOOD at snuffing your approach, SNUFFING THEM is important. You CANNOT INSULT them, because they are used to all the hurt guys INSULTING them ("ahh you are nothing but a bitch!") so this rolls off their back like water off a muskrat's ass.
How do you SNUFF them WITHOUT INSULTING them? Well, let's say she has long nails which are most likely fake. Now why do 10s dress so FINE if they don't want the attention? Sometimes they LOVE the feeling of control. They are in a club with friends and they want to be the leader of the circle (social hierarchy in primates) and so she gets all the attention. The guys come and buy drinks for them and she gets off on knocking the guys down. It's all in a days play. Ok, so she is wearing fake nails to look even BETTER! Most guys will say, "Wow you are so beautiful!" BORING, typical and in her mind by now, TRUE.
Imagine now, a guy comes along and says "Nice nails. Are they real?" She will have to concede, "No, acrylic." And he says (like he didn't notice it was a put down), "Oh. (Pause) well I guess they still LOOK good." Then he turns his back to her.
What does this do to her? Well, he didn't treat her like shit and INSULT her. He complimented her, but the result was to target her insecurity. She thinks, "I'M HOT I'M BEAUTIFUL" - (especially in her current emotional state of control) - "but I didn't win this guy over. I'M SO GOOD at this. I'll just fix that little smear on my image that he has of me."
Then you continue to show disinterest in her looks as you give her a neutral topic like the Elvis script. During this time, her intention is to get you to become like all the other guys so she can feel in control and snuff you.
Then you give her another NEG HIT like this: "Is that a hair piece? Well, its neat... what do you call this hairstyle? The waffle? :)" Smile and look at her to show her you are sincerely being funny and not insulting. You are pleasant but disinterested in her beauty.
This will intrigue her because she KNOWS guys. And this isn't normal. You must have really high taste, or be used to girls, or be married or something. These questions make her CURIOUS. So this keeps happening and is known as FLIRTING. She gives you little Negs and these tests are qualifiers. You pass them by Negging her back. After all, you aren't like the others showing interest.
But... why? To get control again, she says, "Will you buy me a drink?" Notice how she is trying to get you now! BUT, she only wants to sucker you in enough so she can SNUFF you. That is all she is about - this strategy is all she knows and it's not working for you so she is trying to do damage control on the situation. But at the same time she doesn't quite understand WHY you don't think she's "all that."
After all, her nails ARE fake.
You say, "Ahhh, that's so funny ... your nose wiggles when you speak......" - (pointing and being cute) - "look there it goes again ... its so... quaint ... hheeeee look." She'll say, "Ahhh, stoppp!" :) *blush*. Now she is self-conscious and having her in this state is where you want her. You have, with 3 negs, successfully created INTEREST (curiosity) and removed her from her pedestal (removed her bitch shield.) You were humorous, you had a smile, you dress well, you are confident and everything she would want in a man.
You didn't take her shit. OH...and when she asked you for a beer, you said, "No. I don't buy girls drinks. But you can buy ME one." You are qualifying HER now. If she buys you a beer, this is symbolic of her RESPECT for you.
If not, you say, "Pleasure meeting you" [NOT sarcastically] and turn your back to her again. DON'T walk away, just turn your back. You are negging her again just when she thought she was negging YOU. That is teasing each other. That is the first step to flirting. This is all textbook psychology.
A NEG is a qualifier. The girl is FAILING to meet your high expectations. It's not an insult, just a judgment call on your part. The better looking the girl, the more aggressive you must be with using negs. A 10 can get 3 negs up front, while an 8 gets only 1 or 2 over a longer time. You CAN go overboard if they think you are BETTER than them. You can drop the self-esteem right from under them (just like most 10s do to guys) and this isn't good. You have to get as close to the breaking point as you can without crossing the line. Once you have gotten her RIGHT THERE, you can start appreciating things about her (NEVER LOOKS.) There is a mutual RESPECT now. Something most guys never get from the girl.
This is how you remove a bitch shield. 3 negs ought to do it within 2 or 3 minutes of neutral chat. Once it is down, you can, from a place of mutual respect, seduce her.
From personal experience, it takes plenty of practice to use negs effectively – but they are absolutely deadly! When dealing with hot women they are totally essential, because HB’s are use to dealing with supplicating men day-in and day-out! And, if you want to succeed with stunning women, you need to display higher value from the outset to set your-self apart from the AFCs – a neg is an excellent way to do this!
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Negs are so mid 90's. That stuff doesn't work anymore. You'll end up looking like an Ahole in front of the girl you like. Instead work on your confidence and your approachability as well as your public speaking skills.
Fuck you Max, you can't say shit like that after I red the whole fucking article and daydreamed about trying the negs on my next visiting to the club........
This is so hilarious! At first I thought it was a joke. Whoever wrote this doesn't know a thing about women! We often get prettied up without even thinking of men. You never understood why we play dress up as little girls? It is to be feminine and like a princess. I used to get my nails and hair done all the time and never thought of men I just wanted to feel like a princess. Sometimes the sexual attention can make things a bit uncomfortable no matter if a woman is a ten or a five. Sometimes that heir of confidence or HB as you call it, is being uncomfortable at unsolicited attention. Not all women think as I do but before a woman comes into an understanding that she can be seen as a commodity in the dating market and is simply existing in her own space what you say has little merit. It also gives me insight into why an ex of mine is forever orbiting me and tries to neg but it never works. I'm married with a child. We broke up fora reason;)
He's completely missing one HUGE fact. Women competing with other WOMEN! We dress up to look better than eachother, and additionally, we want a guy that other women find attractive. If you look like a 40 year old virgin that lives in your mom's basement, and then attempt to even talk to me, let alone neg me, you're about to get REAL embarrassed. Look at the Jersey Shore guys, do you think they need to tongue and cheek insult girls to knock them off their pedistools for respect? No. Those girls are DTF because those guys are hot, without trying. If your NOT hot, then Negs definitely aren't going to help your cause. What makes an average guy stand out, is self respect and confidence. Confidence is key, if you act like you deserve to be with her, she's going to want to know why and her curiosity is what is going to draw her to you. Not you making her feel insecure in elementry style flirtation.
Mahndisa,
I agree with you that this "article" is a joke. But I do have to disagree with you on one thing. As a student of anthropology, it should be noted that human females have always adorned themselves purely for the purpose of attracting a mate. 50,000 years ago it was colorful flowers, leaves, berries, fruit, natural perfumes, etc. As we have not only developed different methods and devices, but also alternative "reasons" for this behavior. We do this to distract ourselves from the fact that these instincts still exist in us, making us feel more "civilized." For example, we may tell ourselves that we like feeling like a princess. But there is no debate in the scientific community that humans still have this basic instinct at the heart of their behavior throughout their reproductive years.
Mahndisa,
I agree with you that this "article" is a joke. But I do have to disagree with you on one thing. As a student of anthropology, it should be noted that human females have always adorned themselves purely for the purpose of attracting a mate. 50,000 years ago it was colorful flowers, leaves, berries, fruit, natural perfumes, etc. As we have not only developed different methods and devices, but also alternative "reasons" for this behavior. We do this to distract ourselves from the fact that these instincts still exist in us, making us feel more "civilized." For example, we may tell ourselves that we like feeling like a princess. But there is no debate in the scientific community that humans still have this basic instinct at the heart of their behavior throughout their reproductive years.
That should read
"As we have evolved, we have not only..."
Some douche tried negging me & actually gave away what a 'neg' is. Before, I had never heard of this crap. This guy was just downright fugly & I just straight up blocked him after his second attempt at messaging me. Then I googled 'neg' & got this. I'm savvy to this gameplan, now! Lol! Unreal.
This is bullshit :)
I love how all the female commentors assume they are attractive or very attractive, it's cute.
Smart girls don't respond to any of that stuff. But only dumb guys do this stuff anyway. A guy who has true character and value can impress a girl with simply who he is. Trying to manipulate women just shows how low a guy is.
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to the writer of this article
you are a moron
do you suffer from npd or are you just ignorant?
This isn't a joke. It's all true. I have had it done to me and once I figured it all out, I actually watched as another guy tried it on me. The put downs, elevating himself above who he really was... all of it. pretty messed up.
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