Over 70% of women claim to have faked an orgasm frequently during sex. That’s a pretty high damn number. So even with all the Cosmo’s and Glamour magazines and sex books telling women to pursue their own pleasure in bed- they’re still faking it. Women often fake orgasms in order to avoid, or because they don’t know how to, explain how they like or what they want you to do in order for them to climax. Now, one or fakes is entirely permissible, because we women love sex and even if we don’t orgasm all that sexual goodness just makes us happy. But if your girl is constantly faking it, you need to step in and start communicating. So what are the signs she giving the better performance in bed?
1. She Has Energy After Sex
Sex with an orgasm take a lot out of you- so if she’s not breathing hard or just laying there for a few moments trying to recover, it’s likely she faked it. Climaxing gives women lots of oxytocin and endorphins that gives them a mini high, but it plummets soon after. We feel drained after good sex just like you do- so if your girl is able to get up and put on her clothes without hesitation, something’s up. In fact, if she is able to get up and continue her routine like nothing happened, she didn’t climax.- which brings us to…
4. She Immediately Starts Thinking About Her Routine
If after sex she starts talking about what she has to do later that day, or the next day, something is terribly amiss. A satisfied girl can think of only one thing- how satisfied she is and great you are. If her mind is wandering, or if she’s getting up to go do her daily tasks, it wasn’t good for her.
3. Physical Traits
Something different happens to every girl when she climaxes. Some get quiet and concentrate only on what is happening to her body, some get loud as hell and dig their nails into your back and some make give-away noises. There are common traits among peaked women and they are as follows: her face, chest or body gets flushed at the moment of truth, her nipples harden (if her nipples don’t harden is about 95% sure she didn’t orgasm), her breath shortens and you should be able to feel tiny contractions in her vagina. Her body also gets more tense right before an orgasm- involuntarily. Her thighs quiver and her back elongates uncontrollably. Her clit is also very sensitive right after an orgasm so if you’re still pounding away and she is matching you while she “climaxes” and after without changing pace, something up.
2. The Vocals
When we orgasm, pretty much the only person we can talk to is God (Oh my God, Oh God Oh God). If she is stringing together coherent sentences during sex she’s not peaking. If her sentences are fragments and all jumbled up “Jake, God, I, oh my god, so good…” then it more plausible to be genuine. Moans and whispers mean you’re on the right track but loud vocals are usually a sign she’s faking it. It takes way too much damn energy to try and yell how great you are while getting off. If her vocal action sounds like anything in the movies, you’re waaaaay off. For some reason, most women like to act like they’re having movie-style sex when they’re faking it. It’s funny because movie-sex is not real sex.
1. She Doesn’t Get Close To You
When women orgasm, they feel a very emotional connection to the man that helped them achieve it. She will want to snuggle, to be held by you, to just get close to you. She might have faked it if she’d rather fall asleep on her side of the bed without any post coital touching. If she’s okay with you just falling asleep while she does her own thing, it’s also a sign she wasn’t satisfied. Unemotional, non-connecting girls are not happy girls who also didn’t orgasm.
The woman orgasm is not the elusive thing mot people think it is. The trick to stopping her from faking it is… talking about it. If you choose to confront her about it, do it in a way that shows that you want her to orgasm and you want to know how she likes it. Don’t get her defensive by asking “why are you faking it?”- Rather coax it out of her, “I really want to make sure that you get off, I want you to tell me how do to that”. And once you do, both of you will be very, very happy people. Stay tuned for the next article on sex positions that get her off the easiest!
24 comments:
Does having an orgasm affect a woman's ability to count sequentially down from 5?
Note to self: avoid this site for sex advice and math tips.
"The trick to stopping her from faking it is… talking about it." That's so true! Gentlemen, pay attention to what she's saying...we generally mean what we say so make the effort & listen. It will pay off!
I thought it was good advice, but the first poster has a good point.
Some very good points but then again... who cares if she gets off?
Fascinating. The ex-wife faked on me a couple times and I knew it. She wondered how I picked up on it and I brought up the very points you did.
Bah - I'm gay anyway so I don't really have to worry about THAT anymore.
And remember men, the only appropriate response to "No, I didn't have an orgasm." is "Ok".
I'd just like to point out that talking about it only works if she knows how to be communicative -- it isn't always the man's inability to communicate. The last woman I was with had a real problem conveying how to make her orgasm -- even though I had spent the first month or so explaining that I wanted her to tell me what to do to get her off. When she wasn't being aroused enough by whatever I was doing, or if the arousal was waning, instead of telling me what to do better she would just say "Okay..." in an "Okay, stop now" tone.
For a while I just presumed she didn't want to do anything any more, but when I brought it up one evening (early on in the relationship) when I heard the 'signal' she revealed that it wasn't working -- so despite being coaxed, and flat out told, she still couldn't tell me -- when I asked why she didn't suggest a different position, she said "[she] hadn't thought of that." We changed positions, and had a pleasant conclusion.
Ultimately there was probably a lot more going on than her just not being able to communicate what she wanted, but perhaps that's all it was. I would like to think there was something else wrong, because I don't know how else I could have gotten it out of her.
So, again, the "talking about it" thing will only work if both know how to communicate. It was very frustrating, I have a very hard time enjoying the whole sexual experience if the woman I'm with isn't enjoying it.
The Woman Orgasming?
Ha!
She's lucky I'm even paying her the 20 bucks we agreed to!
I know my wife has had a good one if she:
1) Talks to God during it
and
2) Can't remember #1 afterward.
4. Totally agreed. I like it when the ones who have most of their belongings in the car and live with a constant turnover of ex-college friends lands a place gripping the back of my couch. They always seem so important, yet fragile (hungover) while trying to smear lipstick on themselves in the morning. Being a receptionist probably sucks.
One must conclude that the author's sexual experiances have been limited by his inability to count properly. With that in mind, here is the best way to tell if a anyone is faking. During a real orgasm *everyone* (guys and girls) curl their toes. No toe curls, and no O face. Unless they know this rule...
She's faking it with you because you're a dumb ass. You can't construct a bloody sentence: "How To Tell She's If Faking Her Orgasm"
The vagina tends to balloon - expanding in order to allow the mans sperm to reach the eggs just prior to and during a climax. Anyone who's ever studied reproduction science knows this and can tell if a woman's faking it. The nipple thing is true in my experience also. Some women have vaginal orgasms and some have clitoral, some have both. I've learned that giving a woman a vibrator to use on the clitoris during intercourse can give her much stronger and multiple orgasms. Just be sure to vary the routine so she doesn't get dependant on it.
Bleh, this is nothing new...
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I can do most of these after orgasm. o_O
I THOUGHT MY GIRLFRIEND FAKED A FEW TIMES BUT AFTER READING THIS I KNOW SHE DIDNT I THOUGHT SHE WAS JUST OEREXAGERATING WHEN SHE DUG HER TEETH AND FINGURE NAILS IN TO MY SHOULDER BUT I GUESS NOT CUZ U GUYS SAID THAT IS NORMAL
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Only about 10% of woman can finish without clitoral stimulation, and among this group, they require slow, deep sex, usually with them on top.
So if you bank your woman really hard and fast and 5 minutes in she acts like she came, SHE FAKED.
I agree with pretty much everything you said, but I do disagree with the vocals part. My girl is extremely loud when she comes. That's just how she is. Even when we have to be quiet, she's had to cover her own mouth so people don't hear. Some women are loud, some women are not.
Another way to tell if she is faking or not is to have your hands on her bottom (if position is possible for this). I've found that their muscles involuntarily quiver/shake for about ten seconds strong enough for me to feel it. Like she's being touched by a light amount of electricity. This is easiest to take notice while in 69.
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I orgasm. I don't fake it.
BUT:
My nipples don't get erect half the time. This isn't a true thing with all women - I asked my doctor, and this was what I was told. Thus, this isn't a "she for-sure faked it" thing.
Furthermore, I don't get ultra-wet. Not to the point that tapping me with your leg would leave the Mississippi floating in between us. I also asked my doctor about this - and she said that some women get more lubrication than others - and some women don't get that lubricated to begin with! Thus, this too isn't a "for-sure" sign she faked it.
Especially if she's on the birth control pill. Those things dry you up like a desert.
Also, as a woman who orgasms routinely with her man, I have to say that even if I orgasm, if I need to, I will be standing afterwards to get a towel or a washrag to clean up or (depending on the place) a blanket or something to wear quickly. It doesn't mean I faked it - I have a slightly harder time walking (legs get shakey), but I can still do it.
AND, if your woman's clitoris is smaller to begin with, you may not notice that it's more swollen or erect than normal. It may not be a huge difference.
Juuuuuuust saying.
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