Over 70% of women claim to have faked an orgasm frequently during sex. That’s a pretty high damn number. So even with all the Cosmo’s and Glamour magazines and sex books telling women to pursue their own pleasure in bed- they’re still faking it. Women often fake orgasms in order to avoid, or because they don’t know how to, explain how they like or what they want you to do in order for them to climax. Now, one or fakes is entirely permissible, because we women love sex and even if we don’t orgasm all that sexual goodness just makes us happy. But if your girl is constantly faking it, you need to step in and start communicating. So what are the signs she giving the better performance in bed?
1. She Has Energy After Sex
Sex with an orgasm take a lot out of you- so if she’s not breathing hard or just laying there for a few moments trying to recover, it’s likely she faked it. Climaxing gives women lots of oxytocin and endorphins that gives them a mini high, but it plummets soon after. We feel drained after good sex just like you do- so if your girl is able to get up and put on her clothes without hesitation, something’s up. In fact, if she is able to get up and continue her routine like nothing happened, she didn’t climax.- which brings us to…
4. She Immediately Starts Thinking About Her Routine
If after sex she starts talking about what she has to do later that day, or the next day, something is terribly amiss. A satisfied girl can think of only one thing- how satisfied she is and great you are. If her mind is wandering, or if she’s getting up to go do her daily tasks, it wasn’t good for her.
3. Physical Traits
Something different happens to every girl when she climaxes. Some get quiet and concentrate only on what is happening to her body, some get loud as hell and dig their nails into your back and some make give-away noises. There are common traits among peaked women and they are as follows: her face, chest or body gets flushed at the moment of truth, her nipples harden (if her nipples don’t harden is about 95% sure she didn’t orgasm), her breath shortens and you should be able to feel tiny contractions in her vagina. Her body also gets more tense right before an orgasm- involuntarily. Her thighs quiver and her back elongates uncontrollably. Her clit is also very sensitive right after an orgasm so if you’re still pounding away and she is matching you while she “climaxes” and after without changing pace, something up.
2. The Vocals
When we orgasm, pretty much the only person we can talk to is God (Oh my God, Oh God Oh God). If she is stringing together coherent sentences during sex she’s not peaking. If her sentences are fragments and all jumbled up “Jake, God, I, oh my god, so good…” then it more plausible to be genuine. Moans and whispers mean you’re on the right track but loud vocals are usually a sign she’s faking it. It takes way too much damn energy to try and yell how great you are while getting off. If her vocal action sounds like anything in the movies, you’re waaaaay off. For some reason, most women like to act like they’re having movie-style sex when they’re faking it. It’s funny because movie-sex is not real sex.
1. She Doesn’t Get Close To You
When women orgasm, they feel a very emotional connection to the man that helped them achieve it. She will want to snuggle, to be held by you, to just get close to you. She might have faked it if she’d rather fall asleep on her side of the bed without any post coital touching. If she’s okay with you just falling asleep while she does her own thing, it’s also a sign she wasn’t satisfied. Unemotional, non-connecting girls are not happy girls who also didn’t orgasm.
The woman orgasm is not the elusive thing mot people think it is. The trick to stopping her from faking it is… talking about it. If you choose to confront her about it, do it in a way that shows that you want her to orgasm and you want to know how she likes it. Don’t get her defensive by asking “why are you faking it?”- Rather coax it out of her, “I really want to make sure that you get off, I want you to tell me how do to that”. And once you do, both of you will be very, very happy people. Stay tuned for the next article on sex positions that get her off the easiest!