Improve appearance on day to day basis. Get organized - written goals/plans. Focus on these 3 areas:
- Gym & nutrition. Girls seem to value strong/raw physique much more than genetic good looks. This alone will transform seduction from a difficult mountain climb to a walk in the park. Girls will be much more cooperative early on. It is an absolute must.
- Dress with distinct style. Take it to the extreme in clubs/disco. Groom adequately. If odor/rash problem, try 5% vinegar instead of soap.
- Improve vibe/body language habits (see app. A)
Go to coffee shop/mall/pub/bar/club at least twice a week. On your way there, first focus on total relaxing - shut down all other thoughts (especially thoughts about girls). Then consider the incredible coincidence that put you into existence. Think about how lucky you are and how great life is compared to not existing. Really feel the gratitude for being alive, and put a big smile on your face. Continue focusing on this and other things you appreciate (see app. B).
When you arrive, all happy and relaxed, your first mission is to find something inside this environment that you appreciate. Then, turn immediately to the nearest girl and tell her. Say something like "I love this song!" or "Wow.. this couch is so soft.. and I love this texture!" (rub the material slowly). If you see a nice girl, tell her immediately (no delay) . Say something like "You look happy!" or "Aww.. you are so cute!" or "Nice hair! Is it real?" or "That shirt looks good on you!"...
Do not try to observe her reaction. Just continue smiling and commenting on things. Sit/stand with your side towards her. Keep everything light and relaxed. No need to talk non stop. Mix in some teasing and humor (see app. C for inspiration).
When she starts asking about you, say "Guess". Then dodge with joke answers (see list). Then break yourself off in middle of telling. Then try obviously to change the subject. Girls find this little game of secrecy very exciting.
When she starts smiling a lot, tell her she smells good. Stroke her lightly. Talk less. Sit closer.
Attractive body language (BL) habits:
- Posture (straight as if pulled up by the back of head)
- Relaxed (eye lids, face, neck&shoulders, breathing etc)
- Spread out (occupying much space)
- Grace (move deliberately and slightly slowed - a bit like tai chi)
- Distant (as if surroundings are not very important - see BL note in app. B)
The 3 main seductive vibes:
Alpha Male - extra slow, arching neck, extra spread out, expand torso as if air balloon inside being filled. Effective for making girls notice you.
Exercise for learning alpha BL: Close your eyes and conjure mental picture of you being leader and protector of your tribe. Notice the BL details and how powerful and dominant you look. In your mind, climb into the picture and walk over to the alpha you. Step inside and become the alpha you with your BL. Notice how it feels. Find out what color do you associate with this feeling, and where in your body this feeling comes from. See how the feeling/color flows out from this place and fill every part of your body from the top of your head to the tip of your toes. Make the feeling intense and the color bright all over your body. Imagine a volume button in the spot where the feeling comes from. Paint it in the same color and notice what it looks like. Imagine it slowly turning the feeling up to double intensity. Then gradually all the way up to 10 times as intense. From now on, turning this dial will boost your alpha vibe no matter what, so no need to think about the details.
Post Coital - extra emphasis on being relaxed and comfy. Extremely laid back and 'chill'. Slightly narrow eyes and some sleepy stretching. Totally unworried and distant, not caring about surroundings. Effective for making girls curious about you. Practice: Imagine having had crazy sex all night and now totally exhausted. Step into this image like described above.
Horny - unlike other two, strongly aware of girl (facing and looking at her). Very relaxed face with low eye lids and open mouth. Heavy breathing, lick/bite lips, let eyes wander down to girl's body. Effective for turning girls on. Practice: think of something that makes you horny and notice how it affects your BL. Intensify feeling. Intensify BL. (credit GunWitch)
Note on learning all this:
Only way to improve BL-habit is daily practice. Create a daily ritual where you first practice BL and then go into each of the 3 seductive attitudes. Do it together with something you already do every day (brushing teeth, walking to office etc..), so you never forget to practice. Make a small list of the things you want to practice, and keep it in bathroom. Also, whenever you catch yourself having bad BL (hunched, tense, hurried etc..), correct it at once.
Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don't know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).
When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.
Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.
Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with.
A note on BL: Neediness (validation seeking) materializes itself as a large 'awareness radius' (how far away from yourself, you are aware of whats going on). To avoid sending out this bad vibe, try this little mind trick: Imagine a sphere around you. Everything outside the sphere doesn't exist. Then make the sphere as small as possible.
- "Wow you look happy!" (credit Rageking)
- "Aww so nice hair - is it real?" (pull hair) "HEY.. it moved!" (credit Style & Mystery)
- "Aww what a nice fabric/material!" (grab/touch ha piece of her clothes – credit brooklyn)
- "Wow.. I can see you work out.. now and then.."
- "Wow, you look incredible today - did you take a shower?" (credit Viberateher)
- Bump her so almost falls, then "Are you drunk?" (credit dahunter)
- "My invisible friend just told me to talk to you!"
- "Aww... you are soooo cute! I want to adopt you!" (credit Papa)
- "Aww you are soo cute.. but we could never be a couple - we are too much the same.. we would fight and throw things and have incredible make up sex all over the place and fight more then sex fight sex fight.. too much drama and intense feelings!" (credit TylerDurden)
- "Shit! A poisonous snake bit me in the testicles - you got to help me suck out the poison - now!"
- "Bad girl!"
- "Naughty girl!"
- "You are trouble! I shouldn't be talking to you!"
- "There is something mystical about you!"
- "You look like you are hiding something!"
- "I can't trust you!"
- "Aww you look just like.. a little angel/princess!"
- "Guess!" (credit TylerDurden)
- "I'm an unemployed loser - I live with my mom."
- "I'm an angel - one more good deed and I'll get my wings!" (credit TylerDurden)
- "I'm a traveling underwear inspector!" (credit TylerDurden)
- "I'm a freelance gynecologist - how long is it since your last check?" (credit TylerDurden)
- "I'm an orgasmologist!" (credit TylerDurden)
- "I'm 16 - 16 and unkissed!"
- "You are.. 60! Hehe just kidding! Hey I was only kidding! You are.. 16 - sweet 16! 17 18 19! I refuse to believe you are older than 19!"
- "I lost my teddy (puppy dog face).. would you sleep with me?"
- "Aww I love you.. like a sister!"
- "Won't you get too aroused if I sit this close?" (credit Nathan Szilard)
- "I'm hard - are you wet?"
- "My bedroom has a very interesting ceiling!"
- "Aww.. you are so cute.. but we could never be a couple.. my mom would never approve!"
- "My mom told me to stay away from bad girls!"
- "I should have listened to my mom!" (Later in sarge)
- "WTF!? I got no friends! Aha.. it must be my mom!" (Cell phone rings)
- "I got phone phobia - is it ok if I make my mom call you?" (During close)
- "I dont know need to ask my mom." (credit Nightblue)
- "My mom told me to be home before ten." (credit Nightblue)
- "I can't help it. My mother raised me too well." (if she says you are too nice) (credit Style)
- "I'm soooo lonely (puppy) I got no friends and nobody wants me! Tonight I'll go to bed all alone and cry silently until I fall asleep."
- "I'm no good! I cheat, lie and dump girls on valentine's day."
- "I'm no good for you - he is cute - he suits you - you look cute together!"
- "Yeah I'm such a looser - you should get with this guy - look how cute he is, and he really likes you!"
- "My penis is extremely small!"
- "I'm a virgin!"
- "Girls are so scary!"
- "Im shy."
- "This is why nobody wants me.. big tummy" (putting belly out and tapping it) "and tiny dick" (indicate 1 inch w/fingers + sad puppy face)
- "I collect trash - I'm a trash man! Trash is MY LIFE! I plan a big career in trash!"
- "As always, I'm out looking for my future wife. I have NO IDEA why its so hard to find her - I only have 2 tiny requirements! I'm a modest man - I don't ask for much! A perfect body.. and she must be VIRGIN. My dick is so small! I don't want her to have anything to compare me with. It would make me so insecure! I want to be her first and only lover! She must not have a dildo either. I'm afraid the dildo would come between us!"
- Get up, stretch, look around and say "I got to go" … "to the toilet" with a wicked grin.
- "Are you rich? Aww I need a rich GF who can support me while I start a boy band - The Whatever Boys! But hey - I need groupies too! But you don't look like groupie material - she can be my groupie and you can be my manager! Yeah!" (credit TylerDurden)
- Don't undress girls. Start sexing instead (rubbing and dry-humping).
- Rub slowly towards pussy but make a turn so you barely miss it.
- When rubbing pussy, just graze it.
- When licking pussy, don't dive in. Home in slowly. Lick inner thighs a lot, barely touching pussy when you change side. Take time licking areas *close* to the pussy before licking IT.
- When time to put it in, don't! Rub clit with head of cock and put only head inside. Go back and forth between rubbing and putting only head inside.
- When fucking, start *very* slow and focus on getting maximum range of motion with every thrust. Accelerate much slower than she wants to.
Source: Seducing girls