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Thursday, October 26, 2006

How to Get More Blowjobs

“There’s a reason why they call it a job” –actress Kim Cattrall of Sex and the City on a recent Dr. Phil Show when asked about blowjobs.

So recently I was chillin on the couch on a Sunday evening, mindlessly flipping channels, and suddenly, there to brighten my early evening was the gorgeous actress Kim Cattrall on Dr. Phil. Apparently she was acting as a sort of sidekick on a show about the common sexual challenges couples are faced with (she’s just brought out a book called “Sexual Intelligence” which I’m sure we’ll be reviewing soon). You know the complaints, no time for sex, no interest in sex, and the one that really caught my attention – a man wondering how in the heck to get his girlfriend to give him more blowjobs.

Ah, now that’s an important question.

See, the problem is that the girlfriend thinks all oral sex is disgusting (even when she’s on the receiving end – yes, Ms. Cattrall was as amazed as I was). But in the beginning of the relationship, when they were first dating, she participated in both giving blowjobs and receiving cunninlingus as if she enjoyed it. As Dr. Phil so aptly put it, “she pulled a bait n’ switch.”

Just in case I need to spell it out for you, that’s a woman who pretends to enjoy sex (rather than truly get in touch with what she wants and needs to enjoy herself with you sexually) in the beginning of the relationship in order to move you toward commitment.

Blowjob Bait n` Switch

I waited eagerly for the good doctor’s advice, but Dr. Phil really didn’t have great solutions for how to solve this most serious of challenges (at least for men). He pointed out that you can’t really force your woman to give you blowjobs, which is true (unless you want to go to jail), and how good important communication is, but when the lovely Cattrall tried to move things into a practical how-to-get-things-started kind of way it was on to another couple and another challenge.

So since Dr. Phil wasn’t ready to answer the question on national T.V. I’m ready to step in to fill the gap – I’m just bummed I don’t get the sexy Cattrall as my sidekick.

But before we get into how to get more blowjobs, more oral sex, we need to get clear about why girls don’t want to go south in the first place:

Why Many Women Don`t Enjoy Blowjobs

  1. You’re Selfish and Don’t Reciprocate
  2. You Smell Funky
  3. Your Pubic Hair is Out of Control and Constantly Gets in Her Mouth
  4. It Takes Forever to Get You Off
  5. You Insist She Swallow and She Hates How You Taste
  6. And last but not least... She Never Enjoyed It But She Pretended to in the Beginning to Get You to Commit

As you can see, the top five reasons women avoid giving blowjobs are fairly simple things to fix. If you’re selfish you need to get over yourself because sooner or later it’s not only blowjobs you won’t be getting anymore. And it’s easy enough to take a shower or a soak before getting naked, and trimming your forest of pubic hair if it’s out of control, and if it comes down to choosing between no blowjobs vs. simply no swallowing where’s the contest really?

I have heard, however, that drinking more sweet fruit juice, like papaya, can greatly help the taste of your output.

But what the heck do you do about the fact that it takes such long time for you to reach an orgasm during a blowjob that she’s plain worn out?

Let’s face it; we love getting blowjobs because of the mental and visual stimulation more than the physical. Unless we’re still in adolescence (or virgins who don’t masturbate), the stimulation of a woman’s mouth just can’t match that of your own knowledgeable hand or the fabulous pussy. That can mean a woman has to work really hard, for quite a long time in order to take you over the edge. Sooner or later she may decide that the benefits you give in return for her getting a sore tired jaw and a stiff neck just aren’t worth it.

"Free Blowjobs - That`s What Wives Are For"

Several years ago I found an old Playboy of my Father’s when I was helping clean out my parent’s garage. Flipping through it I found an article by the porn star Nina Hartley who admitted she never refused her husband blowjobs – as long as they only lasted five minutes.

Now I don’t know if most women would be quite as generous about giving a blowjob whenever their man felt like one, but I know there are all kinds of women out there who would be far more generous with the mouth action if the act could be brought to fruition quickly. But how do you make it happen? How do you shorten the amount of time it takes?

You cheat. That’s right. You bring in assistance. Whether you get things started yourself, or she uses her hands as well, or toys, or whatever your combined imaginations can come up with (and I think you can get pretty creatively crazy if you both put your minds to it). The key is to get out of the mindset that she’s got to use her mouth from start to finish in order for them to be real blowjobs and instead get into the mindset that the easier you make it for her, the more frequently you’re going to feel her lips around your Johnson.

But now we’ve got to tackle the problem of women who say that going down on a man just isn’t for them. This is where good communication really does come in. You need to find out why she’s not into it. If you’re gal’s refusing because she thinks it’s degrading or perverted it’s better to know now. Perhaps she equates women giving blwojobs to being subservient, in which case you can talk through it and find out if there are ways to work it so she doesn’t feel this way. If she thinks it’s perverted it’s a bigger challenge, but again a good honest talk, where you’re willing to listen rather than demand can do much to move you in the right direction.

And what about if she’s pulled a “bate n’ switch” with the blowjobs she`s given you? Check out next week`s article -- we`ve got some simple seduction techniques you can use to get those blowjobs coming your way again.

35 comments:

Anonymous said...

This did'nt help at all.

Anonymous said...

THose were some good 5 tips

but I doubt any of these will work some women would like it others wont no matter how hard you try

its like a gene if their ancestors did it they will too

Anonymous said...

Girls,slobbing your boy's beef is part of being a good girlfriend!!!!!

Anonymous said...

a good tip for trying to get your first blowjob from a girl ... tell her you're actually a little afraid of getting a blowjob because of how good you've heard it feels and you've never felt anything like that ... that should plant a very erotic seed in her mind and she will really want to find out if it's true sooner or later, and won't want to pass up the opportunity to be your first and best anything

girls ... am i right?


i know that the precious few times i've had a girl tell me that munching her gave her her first orgasm she had ever had that way, i was wholly impressed with myself and i gave it 150% the next opportunity i had - i felt like i owed it to her and from that point on, i was on a mission

*i am posting this as anon because renee might read this and be mad* snicker

Anchovanie Vagingle said...

there has to be some kind of a turn on for the girl when she is giving a BJ all the way from peener-to-boner ... just to know that her sucking made such an obvious sign of arrousal - that's an extremely powerful, personal and direct sign that what you are doing is the ultimate shit, baby!

and girls, aren't you afraid of giving a BJ to someone for the first time? ... how do you know he wont squirt in your mouth right away?

a BJ is usually a prelude to sex (in my life), so if you make him cum too soon, you won't be getting any for yourself - so if you're really horny and end up making out with his wang and expecting to climb on it in a few minutes, how do you know he isnt the kind of guy that squirts as soon as the tip hits tonsils?

at least whe we do the nasty with our tongue and she has an orgasm, there's a nice, wet, quivering hole just waiting to be eargly pumped ... not that im complaining here or anything, it just seems like it's a riskier operation from the girls perspective

darth peenus said...

here's a serious question for the girls ...

one night stand scenario - you've had a few and now skip to the part where he whips out his wang (and it's way bigger than any of the previous wangs you've been with - WAY bigger, think GIRTH)

like a good host, he aims it at your face and starts running towards you ... like a good guest, you make out with it until your neck locks up and your gag reflex is a distant memory

here's the question ... while you're arm wrestling with his penis, are you afraid of having to sit on it later? ... are you terrified he might try a bait-and-switch during doggy style and take the road less travelled? - or are you thinking 'wow, this is huge, i cant wait to get that in there' ... are you even thinking about regular sex with it at all?

are the theatrics and moaning that you do uncontrolable or is it a choice? - i personally much prefer a girl who is trying to be quiet but just cant because it feels so good

why are girls louder than guys during sex - even when getting oral????

Count Ejockula said...

i don't know ... as a guy, i'm always left wondering how good of a job i really did (it's impolite to ask every time) ... at least with a blowjob you KNOW you made him have an orgasm

even as a straight guy i could see me liking blowjobs if i was a girl - it just seems more responsive and sporty than a vagina

having said that, i freaking LOVE going down on a shaved girl just out of the shower (this is a major turn-on for me and just as fun as a blowjob some times) ... i simply cannot fathom how any guy could resist such an amazing, beautiful and delicate thing that seems like it was made for a tongue

seriosly girls, if your guy isnt doing his share down there, shower/shave it and then just walk up to him and stuff it deep in his face when it's his tour-of-duty ... if his face isn't crotch level at the time, just go lay down on the floor between the TV and where he is sitting and aim your pussy towards him and start going to town with your finger and tell him you wish it was his tongue - what football game?

Jenndorella Cinnette said...

i agree ... sometimes you have to remind a guy what he's missing and make him focus on what's right in front of his face

c'mon guys! ... you've been trying to gain access to this marvel of female anatomy every single day of your life since puberty - you spank it to fuzzy out-of-focus pictures of this secret fold of skin - you brag to your friends that you've been in the same room as one when you were 12 at summer camp and went into the wrong dressing room - this is what you've been waiting for all of your life, now!! ... when you get a real one in front of you and she's willing, take your time and really enjoy your reward! - play with that thing like your life depends on it

something about a freshly showered, shaved vagina compels you to want to put your tongue on it, and once it's there, it feels like that's where it belongs

yay vaginas! and thank you to all of the girls out there that have let me play with theirs over the past 20 years - you all RULE!

The Cocklitch said...

speaking as a guy who likes blowjobs, and therefore speaking for every man that has ever walked the earth; if there's something funky going on down there causing you to avoid BJ's, TELL ME!

if you want it trimmed, im there ... want it freshly washed? if possible, im always happy to jump in the shower for 5 mins with a little shampoo (even if i already showered earlier, it's really not a big deal, honest) ... dont like the taste when i finish? i'll try eating or drinking all kinds of weird crap and lighting special incense if you think it will make it taste better

seriously, if we can do anything to make it more enjoyable, and therefore more pleasurable and frequent, say something - if the guy refuses, he obviously doesn't want a BJ

i know i've requested shaving or a quick shower/bath from girls before we ever even got close to naked and they always seem happy to do it if it's convenient - i dont know any guys that wouldn't be willing to do the same

excellent excuse for a 'special' shower together

Doctor Poopsoap said...

girls ... have you ever come across a monster weener and furiously BJ'd it so he would finish fast because you were afraid of being vaginally impaled with it if he didn't?

what would you, average good girl who has an occasional fling, do if confronted with an eager boner you thought was just too damn big for you?

this isnt some pervert question (yes it is) - i think some guys really want to know this ... and if you did encounter a monster johnson like that by accident, perhaps out in the woods somewhere, would you think it was scary or just gross or tempting-in-a-unholy-way? ... if it was too big, how would you get yourself out of having to bury that damn thing


p.s. i'm serious





seriously.

euphoria said...

i've been told that i was 'too big' for her to have sex with during a blowjob, but it's always fit after a little work, so i think that's something girls just say to inflate your P-ego ... i am average at best and couldn't care less if a girl thinks i hold the record for world's most muscular penis ... it's not like i can have it upgraded but decided not to

i think girls have a stigma about size more than guys do ... we all already know there are bigger peni out there and that's ok with us, don't feel like you have to impress me by exaggerating the size of my own penis to me - ive been playing with that thing since i was born, i already know how big it really gets

so instead of remarking about how massive that 4" penis is, just tell him you love what he does with it ... unless you dont love it, in which case you should be perfectly honest about how 'big' he really is

unless you actually have a deformed sasquatch penis like some porn stars, it will eventually fit

that's where that thing is supposed to go!

Quit Poking That Thing said...

i completely agree ... us guys aren't the graceful creatures of hygene and beauty that most girls are

our junk is more likely going to smell like 'alternator' or 'onion' (i've heard the onion one personally, even though that's not where i keep my onions) than chamomile body wash like a finly-tuned girl's meat hole is usually, and we know it

it's not that we like our crotchenal region smelling like like a car transmission, we just can't help it sometimes

but since 'stinky' things like bare sheet-metal, old pennies, oil filters and sawdust are an integral part of a mans world, that also means that we often don't NOTICE we reek until it's time for you to make out with our weener, and by the time we take a shower and save you from it, the mood is sorely diminished

so - as a guy (a sometimes sweaty, car-part smelling guy) - PLEASE nicely make time, and a suggestion that we jump in the shower real quick - if he's reluctant, offer to make it a 'romantic shower' and go scrub his doodad for him - just be gentle

anchovanie vagingle said...

ok ... oral sex+in the shower=freaking awesome time for everybody, even with an otherwise impenetrable pubic jungle

i always thought that was why they make bath tubs with showers in them, so the guy can lay down and either give or receive oral with a beautiful, warm shower of water coming down the whole time

afraid of going down on a girl for the first time? ... talk her into trying it in the shower, you can't lose

the vulvateen rabbit said...

you can tell us a thousand times to take it slow when giving a girl oral sex, but it doesn't matter

telling a revved up guy to take it slow is like trying to unlight a fuse on a bomb - once we have that amazing, inviting prize in front of our faces, the urge to plow into it and start wildly stabbing at your clit with our tongue is just too much for most guys to overcome (at least until you've done it together a few times and the vagina-voodoo wears off a little)

it's not that we like getting it over with, it's that we can't help it once the frenzy starts

please believe me that guys DO know how we are supposed to do it (slow and easy), but when a guys tongue touches her no-no, all of our preperations and training go straight to hell and a "fog-of-war" blankets all of our self control and common sense - we do try, really

as a girl, you should feel both irritated and honored by this

really, to expect a guy to act reasonable with a wet vagina in his mouth is just plain crazy and unrealistic

dimstone said...

i couldn't agree more ... when it's my turn, i completely forget everything i wanted to try and end up just randomly fumbling with the vagina instead of using it according to specs

sometimes i literally forget to breathe because im concentrating on the task at hand and i have to come up for a quick breath (i KNOW im not the only one that this happens to)

it's not in the medical books yet, but vaginal hypnosis is a real problem with guys, and a major contributor to why we always seem like we have to swallow your entire clit at the first opportunity

sorry about that girls ... please be patient with us

hey, maybe you should show us how you want it done with your hot friend ... oh yea, that's someone else's life, sorry about that.

why are my balls bald? said...

think of your vagina like the new TIVO box your man just bought ... did he read the manual like you told him to, or did he just start screwing with it and pushing random buttons while yelling at it to do his bidding? - thought so.

yes, a willing, eager vagina is actually SO exciting to a guy that it sometimes falls into the same category as the kind of quality electronics so cool that the manuals never even get taken out of the plastic bag

we love them so much that we can't be bothered to take our precious time away from them to learn how to properly use and maintain them

which is exactly why a girl sometimes needs to just grab him by the hair and take control show him the true path

here's the real mindbender; we LOVE it when you force us to do what puts you over the top - MAKE us bring you to a full, twitching orgasm once in a while, we love that stuff!

if you think that's out-of-character for you or seems too slutty, you are WAY off base - a surprise like that is what guys brag to each other about

beastly erection said...

here's another trick to get your guy to 'groom' your junk

one evening when it's totally just an average evening - it's just the two of you and sex hasn't even been talked about, but you are horny and need some oral maintenance

so, for absolutely no reason at all, and without warning, act like you're going to the bathroom and go into another room and get completely naked and then walk back out like everything's normal and just sit next to him (or better yet, innocently sit in his lap)

chime in here guys - would that not be enough of a major erector that you would lick, suck or do any part of her that she wanted with just a glance and a light moan?

the trick is to not act like you want sex or even romance - just walk in like you are clothed and everything is normal and i doubt if he will even have time to wonder why you're naked before he is thinking of several raunchy ways to violate you

by this point, you will most likely have his face buried in your crotch and be covered by a thin, sheer layer of sweat

jenndorella cinnette said...

ive played a similar game in the past ... on random nights i would sit at the dinner table totally in the nude (it was just the two of us) and we would both act like everything was normal - i would even make dinner in the raw and it was a major turn on to me knowing he could see me and was getting turned on by it himself

it always ended up turning us both on for different, but similar reasons and i don't think we ever finished a dinner on those days

girls, even if you don't have a great body, don't worry about this ... he's going to be majorly turned on regardless

tip: act a little shy about it and don't overly expose yourself and it will drive him crazy imagining what he can't see, but still knows is out in the open

when i've done this, (i never tell him when/if i'm going to do it) i've never seen it end without wild, sweaty, relaxing and over-the-top foreplay/sex if you play it out as long as you both can stand it

jenndorella cinnette said...

beastly erection, thank you for the incredibly erotic suggestion

i think tomorrow morning when he gets up early for work and i'm making french toast and he has some spare time to wake up and read the paper, i'm going to forego my usual flannel jammies and just wear a belly-button length t-shirt and absolutely nothing else ... yes, totally commando is the plan and i'm loving the sound of it

i'm betting the sight of my freshly shaved 'area' down there, acting all innocent and 'accidentally' exposed will be enough to make him call in late for work and make me ready for a nap afterwards

i'm doing it for real, and i'm already getting turned on thinking about it ... i bet it's enough to make him snap out of his 'vaginal hypnosis' (great word BTW) and actually take his time with it before i get started

gotta stir things up once in a while, ya know? ... i'll report on how well it worked when i can walk right again :~)

scox said...

here's my 2c - works great for inexperienced sexers

if he isn't doing it right, suggest that you give him 30 minutes to explore, examine and play with your thing - tell him he can do anyhing he wants as long as he is nice about it and you wont stop him for the whole 30 mins

he will experiment and try all kinds of things out and he will be keenly aware of your reactions - he will be surprised at what he can make you do/feel and that will empower him to be more creative in the future

ask him for the same favor and just spend 30 mins or so just playing with his peener like it was your own all of a sudden

as long as you both agree to a certain amount of uninterrupted time for each partner to just try things out with each other's naughty-bits you can't fail

both partners end up learning lots of new personalized tricks and even the person being 'experimented on' can be teased to orgasm with the right ambition and curiosity by the 'giving' partner

think of it as a very-adult version of playing doctor -it works

chemise said...

great idea - as long as there are some ground rules (tell him/her in advance what they cannot do, if anything) and then just let playtime happen

chances are, your partner has, at some point, wondered what it feels like to have your body parts and this gives them an opportunity to try out some ideas about they think certain things would feel like without any pressure (remember, just exploring here - not trying to grind one out or take years off of his life via orgasm)

the best part about this is that, in addition to being a potential crapload of fun, it also teaches your partner how to use and play with your body more efficiently and a lot of the tongue stabbing goes away after a few of these informal explorations

that's how i learned when i was a teenager with my girlfriend, and we still like to do that from time to time 20 years later too

oral sex can seem like a mysterious, sometimes scary thing to some people, mainly because of fear-of-the-unknown - this does away with that fear in a super fun way!

chemise said...

another good excuse for a girl to try the "genital-experimenting" thing is that girls seem to be really self conscious about their no-no's (otherwise why would you always hide it in your panties?)

and, while im sure it's unintentional, that can make some guys think there's a good reason for that and that a vagina is something dirty or scary or something not fun like that

giving him uninterrupted playtime with it (with a few basic rules/understandings) can enlighten him to the fact that your body is FULL of amazing nerve endings that can put you into a sex-coma if done properly - something he may not ever learn properly unless given time to fiddle with your junk

again, think of the guy with the TIVO manual - most guys need to figure things out in a physical way and need to test the limits of anything they need to work with - telling him how to do it, or even watching porn just doesnt cut it and he will fail because he never had the chance to play with it without any pressure or guidance

chemise said...

im going out on a limb here and assuming that girls dont actually want guys to fear their vaginas ... am i on the right track?

karoscene said...

yes, as long as you plan and expect some screw-ups from each side ... we don't really know what that feels like to have your parts, so we might occasionally go caveman on your junk

things to avoid ... sucking too hard, anything even remotely to do with dentures ... hard biting ... hard farting, buttholes should remain something to be discussed before messing with it - common sense stuff

quit playing with that thing and eat it! said...

yes, as long as you plan and expect some screw-ups from each side - we don't really know what that feels like to have your parts, so we might occasionally go caveman on your junk

things to avoid - sucking too hard, anything even remotely to do with dentures -hard biting -hard farting, and buttholes should remain something to be discussed before messing with it -common sense stuff

hell, i'm 37 and past the teenage years of hormone induced fantasies about what a vagina really looks like in person and i would STILL like someone to offer her vagina to me just to hang out with for a few hours and get creative with it -even if that's all we did

please tell me i'm not in the minority with this philosophy - guys! it's a freaking vagina right there in front of you! - get to work on that thing before it disappears again and you don't ever find it

good god, man! EVERY time you have access to a vagina, treat it like it might be the last time you will ever see one again (or else it might be)

that's what she said...

This stuff helped soooooo much im single right now (call me;)) but i intend to use this in the near future

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I love blowjobs said...

I dont think these will work. I have read a lot of "pick up" books and have found I have scored better when I'm just being myself, having a good time and just talking to pretty single girls.

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